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A central point, as of attraction, attention, or activity, to concentrate: to focus one’s thoughts; verb (used without object), focused, focusing or focussed, focussing. To be or become focused.

We need it, we try to do it, we work hard at maintaining it, and struggle very hard to keep it, for the long or short term. With a goal, you need it, it’s not a want, and with it, a certain amount of strength is required to keep it. With your eyes on the prize, you need it, focus, and that’s what sexy this week.

Distraction is easy, and like a bad, if I may be so blunt, FART, it is ever creeping and lingers all the time and everywhere. You hear it, you smell, and sometimes you see it.

I’ll switch gears and use another descriptive, but I think you got the point with the previous 🙂

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In another asinine show of control over it’s citizens,  the British government is once again telling them, who they consider STUPID, what they can and cannot watch when it comes to pornography and the type of depictions they can indulge. Let’s remind ourselves of the key word here, depictions, meaning NOT REAL, fake, and if it is a real spanking, as we all know a lot of folks truly do like that sort of activity, including myself.  What pisses me off about all this is the self righteous religious, moralistic right thinking they continually know what’s best for everyone else. When in actual fact they don’t even know what’s good for themselves!! (more…)

Dildos find themselves in the oddest of places, not just the familiar spaces originally designed and intended for. Once a person has had their fill they seem to end up in the bottom of the garbage can so no one can see the evidence of what has been getting you off as of late.

However here in the picturesque West End of Vancouver as evidenced by this lovely picture (to the right) a friend took, and immediately shared with me (although I can’t figure out why) they don’t always make it to the intended place of discard. That also includes toys that aren’t quite ready for the bone yard. (more…)

We all have them, and in numerous forms. Be it a love of flowers, cars, jewelry, trips to the gym, food and good wine, bras and panties, or beautiful people, WE ALL HAVE THEM! Obsessions! For some it is a simple infatuation, quickly gotten over in a short time, but for those on the move, doing things with ambition, sometimes a little, or lot of inspiration is what those folks need, a healthy obsession, that’s what sexy this week.

Don’t quite understand? Well let me explain with my healthy obsessions.

As I progress through life and age, although I prefer to use the term “mature” because I believe we are all continually doing so, and I hate the word aging, I am striving to continually to perfect or modify myself for good health and longevity. What do I do? One of the things I do is go to the gym 6-7 days a week, of what is soon to be a year long test of myself after a nearly 2 year hiatus. Some would call that obsessive, I call it healthy, and love watching as my body changes. (more…)

As much as I like to think I am, I’M NOT! I am not immune to the hate that fills those who feel it their right to lash out and hurt those of us on this planet that are different. Those who have chosen to become happy in our own skin. Those like me!

I sit here writing this as a woman who is post-op transsexual having gone through all the procedures necessary for me to become happy. I am a woman inside and out, a woman now comfortable in my own skin, looking and feeling great, loving life, the liberties I fought hard for, and sex, yes sex! I love it, and so do the partners that have, and had the pleasure to share it with me.

I guess you could say I made up for lost time, and well, still am.

I am also a woman that sits here writing this with the memories of the stabbings I have endured, the knife slashes, the beer bottle wounds from being bashed, scars where chunks of flesh have been torn out by teeth from my attackers, the broken bones long since healed that still ache, areas on my head where the hair doesn’t grow back, (more…)

We all fuck up now and then, some more than others leaving a large part of the population scratching their heads in disbelief as to the frequency for that part of the populace. I’ve done it, I am sure many of my readers have, but with the unique ability to laugh off the idiocy of the situation, by owning it, I say!

A unique little story came my way involving the gaseous passing we all have from our anus, farts. Yes farts, they can smell downright nasty especially the silent but deadly ones, be trumpet loud, or high pitched like the squeak of a mouse. They are endless in the types and just as endless in the descriptives we use for them, but they make us laugh. The story I am going to reference deals strictly with the smell factor and the unique, if not humorous way of dealing with the aroma and end result. (more…)

After the eyes the next facial element to validate the look of a playful flirt is the mouth. A mouth that displays the upturned corner, or corners of a set of full lips beginning to flush with the heat of blood coursing through pulsing veins and arteries just below the surface of the skin. Lips that transform into many poses of communication, communication all a part of a directed smile, a flirt, creating what’s sexy this week, a mischievous smile.

Let’s be honest with each of all of us, we love the validation, the acceptance, the acknowledgement, whatever it takes! A smile goes a long way, especially when you know it’s sincere. It doesn’t mean you have to follow through, and if you do, so be it! Flirting makes each and of everyone of us on this planet feel good. (more…)

I have always said that there was more to it than just a simple liking for it! Kink for many, is in their genes, their well-being, their whole make-up. You are truly born with it. However there has been no real way to diagnose it from a scientific stand point, and I am not sure there ever will be. There will always be the nay-sayers, as there are with those who continue to dispute that being born gay was and is a choice, and don’t get me going on that! The idiots!

Up until now nothing has been presented in a slightly fun, or slightly scientific manner until the folks at UBERKINKY came (more…)

This article first appeared in Everyday Feminism and embellished with pictures to fit the this blog.

Debunking 6 Myths about People in the Sex Industry

November 5, 2014 by Laura Kacere and Sandra Kim

They navigate and move between the spaces of visibility and invisibility, criminal and citizen, safety and danger, exploitation and empowerment.

People engaged in the commercial sex industry are constantly navigating these margins.

Amidst stigma and invisibility, they suffer high rates of violence and discrimination, and yet are too often left out of the conversation around violence against women. (more…)

New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

by CARLITO PABLO on NOV 6, 2014 at 3:32 PM
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Jessica, a sex worker, spoke out at a press conference critical of the passage of Bill C-36.
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