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To be or not to be? That’s always been the question, and most likely always will be. When I set out on my own journey to be happy in my own skin, I must say I was somewhat naive to certain aspects that were to come along with it. Aspects that girls, and women go through on a daily basis. I am not going to outright spell it out for you, but because I can, and will, within the context of this tidbit, be somewhat vague.

I’ve always been androgynous, something I was able to use to my advantage in my early days of advertising professional fetish services; “Androgynous Pretty Boy/Girl Will Whip You Into Shape!” It paid off, clients got it and so did the rest in my social circle. At the time I was still very much immersed in dealing with my own dysphoria, (more…)

Manscaping is a good thing, but these days it has been taken to extremes in my eyes and the beholders of many others. What started off as a process to clean up the hair from unruly eyebrows, legs, backs and butt crack, seems to have extended beyond that to the forearms of so many overly processed pretty boys. Looking at smooth forearms evokes images of prepubescent boys, that make even the most tolerant give their heads a shake. Hairy forearms on a man, that’s what’s sexy this week.

Hair on a man is not all coarse and prickly, but quite the contrary, soft, downy and wonderful to touch! Even the legs, of which the women and men into men, know the feel of hairy legs rubbing up against their own in the heated frictions of passion, (more…)

Tits, boobs, juggs, ta taas, knockers, breasts, fun bags, the girls, guns, the rack, the top 10 slang names given to those beautiful orbs that adorn the chest of the amply endowed women, and some men. Like it or not, they are the ultimate in defining femininity for those who have embraced wearing them up and out there on full display for the world to see and enjoy. I am not talking about running around with them airborne, but rather presented in their full voluptuous glory, of which I for one am happy to see, and, do myself.

The sign that a woman is coming into adolescence and then again sexual prime, are the growing orbs, the first thing noticed by the throngs of boys and jealous girls in middle school, those bouncy, fleshy mounds, the first thing noticed and remembered. (more…)

Abolitionists are continually telling folks that sex workers don’t have a choice, nor have the ability to make their own choices. What makes them the experts behind their religious front. Did they ask sex workers? Did they ask the other thousands out there? NO, because they don’t want you to have a choice, they don’t want to give you a choice, they don’t want you to have the freedom to make your own choice. Only they are the ones allowed to have a choice in their eyes, and that is frightening, because some politicians are listening, and when one option for choice is taken away, thus begins the trickle down effect diminishing our ability for further choices to be made. (more…)

Shoulders, the nice broad shoulders of a man atop a perfectly sculpted V-shaped torso, crafted ever so carefully at the gym, or part of the natural physical make-up for those gifted through good genetics. Rounded strong shoulders that curve into deep valleys to bulge over mountainous biceps. Shoulders caressed by eager hands and looked upon by doting eyes, strong shoulders well shaped, and defined are what’s sexy this week.

The highly sought after shape by masculine men for the upper body is the afore mentioned V-shape that begins with a small waist and flares out to either side of the collar bone. For some it begins with the muscular and well defined pelvic lines that disappear into the garments worn on the lower half of the body. (more…)

Albeit a few days late this week, but only for a few reasons. My original intention of Sexy This Week was to stimulate thought, and create a happy awareness of life and the lovely elements that make up our daily lives. Elements that in my eyes, and those of many others, are sexy and beautiful, sexy and beautiful enough to put a smile on a dull face, and make a gloomy mind blossom into colourful thoughts of epic proportions. Life that’s sexy and beautiful, that’s whats sexy this week. (more…)

Life at the sex shop isn’t always about the young, beautiful, and physically fit venturing through the doors for the latest and greatest of sex toys on the market. It’s a variety of folks that come from all walks of life, of all backgrounds, cultural beliefs, religions, anything and everything, you name it, we see it. I realized long ago working as a sex educator and at the sex shop, that sex doesn’t stop as a person ages, let alone when a person loses a loved one. In particular someone who has been with an individual all their loving adult life. (more…)

Here is an interview I recently did with Romeo Reyes of Zen Tattoo, who also happens to be one of my tattoo artists. Romeo is a FtM on his journey  of life and asked if I would sit for him! Being the media whore I am naturally I said yes!! Watch my shy self all casual in a chat with Romeo!! OOXX  Find Romeo here

For those that live in areas where four distinct seasons are what you’re fortunate to indulge year round, such as myself, protection or adornment of some kind for the lips is mandatory. Barometric pressures rise and fall like the underwear of the sexually promiscuous at a constant and consistent rate akin to that of a straight eight cylinder engine roaring up and down the highway. As a result, dryness occurs requiring lubrication to keep things from cracking, drying, and over heating. (more…)

Messing up the sheets with passionate, romantic sex is always on the table. Everyone of all sexes loves to be wined, dined, and romanced as enticement for sexual activity. Lit candles, flowers, chocolates, gifts, generally lay the ground work for the type of sex a person is about to have, romantic, loving sex. Sex that is definitely with it’s merit, because sex of any kind, at anytime, is always good, and as we all know good for many reasons. However, what if a little raunch is what you’re wanting? How do you get it, ask for it, and what’s it that you’re hoping for or wanting?

How does the cute brunette that loved to be passionately kissed while in the missionary position, go to doggy style being pummelled at the speed of light with her hair held like the reigns of a thoroughbred in a dead heat for winning the Brown Derby? The sexual practices indulged as youth were for the most part a serious learning curve, an educational journey that got us to the types of play we enjoy as determined adults. What was once loved and cherished as the sometimes awkward sexual activities for most in their youth, is not the case anymore. (more…)