I have always said that there was more to it than just a simple liking for it! Kink for many, is in their genes, their well-being, their whole make-up. You are truly born with it. However there has been no real way to diagnose it from a scientific stand point, and I am not sure there ever will be. There will always be the nay-sayers, as there are with those who continue to dispute that being born gay was and is a choice, and don’t get me going on that! The idiots!

Up until now nothing has been presented in a slightly fun, or slightly scientific manner until the folks at UBERKINKY came (more…)

New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

by CARLITO PABLO on NOV 6, 2014 at 3:32 PM
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Jessica, a sex worker, spoke out at a press conference critical of the passage of Bill C-36.
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Sexual objectification of the human male is fun and sexy, and let’s remind ourselves, men have been doing it to women for quite some time. Size does matter, and the men know it. They present it, seek out methods to enhance it, and relish in the fact that folks are looking. A bulging crotch presented in full glory is what’s sexy this week.

Bulging crotches that press up against the trappings of the coverings that conceal them are admired by all that are brave enough to admit to staring at them. Sitting at crotch height gives the perfect vantage point for getting a full on good look. Fantasies of size, shape, colour, girth, over take us all in our dirty little imaginings.

Cut or uncut, pierced, tattooed, decorated to the owner’s specifications. Is it a semi that makes it bulge, is it naturally that size soft, is it a cock ring, or padded? Yes padded, better yet packing! Delightful dreaming of what lies beneath concealed. Dreams of unleashing the beast from within, the beast of the male presentation of masculinity worn up and out there, just like memories of the playtex bra that lifted, supported, and separated. Women know the power of the breast, and the men are finally getting it with the power of the bulge.

Does it hang to the right, softly to the right, or straight down the middle? Pointed, full and meaty, skinny and long? Wild and woolly, trimmed and neat, shorn close cropped, or shaved soft and smooth? Balls that are tight close, free without to much swing, or seriously low hanging?

Tighty whiteys, thongs, briefs, boxer briefs, long line athletics? Underwear with a built in cock ring, a pouch to support the goods up and forward, away from the thighs, sliver thread inserts to draw away moisture for those athletically inclined.

The smell, the touch, the look, the taste, the sound. Do it! Blatantly stare, make it obvious, and the men uncomfortable, or not.

Now isn’t that fun? To objectify a man, a man’s crotch?

Conversations around sex and sex work have always been a challenge, but especially so, when children are around. Folks seem so conflicted when it comes to any form of education, advocacy, images, representations or even depictions, implied or not. Now me as the eternal devil’s advocate I am always asking why, what’s this conflict, where does it come from? The reasons are endless, fortunately for me, I’m in social circles that have a very healthy outlook on sex, sex of any kind, or anything in general to do with it. We talk about, look at it, have it, express it, and of course educate the young around us. No we’re not having it front of them, or producing images, writings, or other as they’ll find it on their own, the curious always do, but those I know, definitely don’t shy away from it.

So, let’s think of children! Does that mean we should keep them forever sheltered about what is going in the world? The world of our physiological needs, biological needs? Needs for the most part that are beyond our control. (more…)

Good mental and physical health is essential to our well being, we all know that, we’re all taught that from an early age. Having the “where with all” to maintain it, that’s a different story, a life long journey, and to some, a challenge that requires a serious amount of will power. Getting up each and every day to do your exercise isn’t always motivation that comes naturally, not a lot in this world these days is natural and you have “yours truly” to attest to that. What it requires is some serious discipline, serious self discipline, and fitness through discipline is what’s sexy this week.

Each day I go to the gym for my workouts I am greeted by the hard working, committed trainers that go out each and every day to provide their knowledge and care to those that need it. Sharing their expertise and commitment to good mental, and physical health. Let’s get one thing clear, they are human to, and you can bet your bottom dollar they go through the same things any other person involved in the world of fitness does, the challenges to keep up the pace. Not everyone bounds out of bed with a smile or endless energy, not everyone has a clear healthy mind, not everyone is ready for the day. It takes discipline to push yourself through and beyond,  to do so everyday, and only you have the control to do so, no one else.

Recently I did a 24 hour road trip, 12 hours there, 12 hours back, being cooped up in a car non-stop each way. I keep telling myself it is relaxing, calming, I can read my books, magazines, listen to music, have a nap, watch the scenery go by and hope for a glimpse of the wild life that’s here in beautiful British Columbia, but for fuck’s sake, IT’S EXHAUSTING! Who am I trying to kid, I barely napped, didn’t read at all, found the music irritating, and yes, truly did enjoy the black bears, and elk along the way, but the rest, you can have it!

I did venture to the gym at my destination, and that was seriously refreshing, however on my return I started to get back into my routine but on my second day back, slept through an early morning TRX class. Me the “uber” Domina couldn’t even get my own lazy, undisciplined ass out of bed! WTF!!?? I only had myself to blame, no one else, I felt crappy, lazy, and seriously apologetic that I left a hole in my trainer’s class, cause my butt was to snuggled in!

In the words of NIKE, just do it! Get out there and feel good, breathe deeply the beautiful air, work that body, get the blood pumping, and put a smile on that face!

For those of us that like penis, morning erections (actually called Nocturnal Erections) is something we’ve all dealt with. The half groggy pokey pokey in the backside with the hopeful intention of slipping it in somewhere for an even better ride even if it is during casual spooning at the crack of dawn. There is a scientific reason they happen, as you’ll read in the explanation below written by Justine Alford, supplied by UBC Psych 350A, a compelling read that tells it from physiological standpoint, and is spot on.

As daunting as they may seem, these morning erections, they are part of the physical make-up of the male, enjoyed, sometimes irritating, (more…)

Everyone loves a slow comfortable screw up against the wall, but wait, that’s the shooter! Seriously folks, everyone loves a slow comfortable screw, and this time I am NOT talking about the shooter. We all talk about the “quickie” the “morning quickie”, the “afternoon lunchtime quickie”, the “evening just before the kids go to bed quickie”, or the “just home from work quickie”, the QUICKIE! Nice, passionate, loving, kissing, cuddling, quickies.

Great if that’s what you want, but what about those that want it a bit rough, hard, almost abusive? Passionately abusive, grip me hard, don’t let me out the door on my way to work, finish my make-up, or get off the phone. Grip me, grab me, throw me (more…)