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It seems that folks are going through something these days, a lot of something, break-ups, job loss, the loss of loved ones, serious transitions & transformations, and I am not sure if it has something to with planetary alignment or energy shifts, but it’s some serious shit! There has been, and are many a conversation going on out there about the feelings and acknowledgement of this shift, and one thing that is for sure is the lack of emotional protection or advance warning when something does happen. The wall, that proverbial wall we build around our emotions to keep us guarded and strong seems to be crashing down hard, and for so many, with some serious consequences. (more…)

The realm of fetish is one seriously diverse world where you can pretty much find anything that tickles your fancy. One request I get on a regular basis is to be my personal slave, a slave that will do anything I order, for me, and mostly to me. As tempting as the offer is, I find myself politely declining on most occasions. Why? Well let me clarify.

Being a personal slave for many usually comes with the applicant’s pre-conceived notions of what that is, (more…)

Flirt; to behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.

Whether for serious or playful intentions we all do it conscious of it or not, subtle variations in body language like the flicking of the hair, making eye contact, gentle touching, open stances, closeness to one another, laughing at jokes that just aren’t funny, teasing, you get the picture. Depending on how direct a person chooses to be, male or female, the intentions in the general sense of the (more…)

Sometimes the summer months bum me out….sometimes! Mostly I miss wearing my stockings or fishnet pantyhose. They feel so great stretched across these legs, well ok, gams! I have legs that go on forever with a 33 inch inseam and let me tell you finding anything to cover them isn’t always easy! Aside from DIM, my new fave brand for sexy coverings happens to be FIORE. Made in Poland, they are structured, strong, and have a multitude of colours, styles, and patterns. Hence why I love wearing fashions create for legs, but not only for the variety, the look, feel, how sexy they make it all, especially (more…)

The onset of warmer weather is generally when you see an increase in the last minute efforts being made by many to get that beach ready body. The rise in the numbers of folks sweating it out at the gym or taking it to the streets reminiscent of the broken resolutions from the start of each new year. The ability to keep that pace going year round, day in and day out takes discipline, serious motivation, and a healthy heaping of determination.

Many are no angels when it comes to this and I am no stranger (more…)

According to Wikipedia, “Red is the colour of blood, rubies and strawberries. It is the colour of the wavelength of light from approximately 620–740 nm on the electromagnetic spectrum. Next to orange at the end of the visible spectrum, red is commonly associated with danger, sacrifice, passion, fire, beauty, blood, anger, Christmas, socialism, communism, and in China and many other cultures, with happiness.” Above all it’s exciting, sexy, and turns people on!

Red for all intense purposes attracts attention especially in the context of sex. From lipstick to lingerie, cars to fruit. Just think of (more…)

I always found myself envious of the olfactory power of cats, dogs, and pretty much every animal other than homosapiens. The power to smell! It is such a powerful tool in the animal kingdom and for some reason we humans don’t quite have that ability. Sure we can utilize so many of our other senses, but when it gets right down to it , we love the smell of sex, sexuality, and desire! The before, the after, the heightened pheromones that get our drives going, but then we don’t really smell pheromones do we? They just activate our pleasure centres on a subconscious level and kick us into overdrive. (more…)

The gag reflex for beginners, it’s not as easy as you think!

I get asked this a lot, and god only knows why, but the question is how to control your gag reflex during oral play? Maybe it’s the aura I give off, but I want to remind you that I am human just like all of you and I encounter challenges just like anyone else! For now, let me share with you a little advice that you can take for whatever it’s worth.

We all like to think of ourselves as the best at providing oral pleasure and for those of you gifted, you’ve gotten past the gag reflex able to rise to the occasion like a true champion of deep throat diving. As you may, or may not know, it takes practice and sometimes a lot of practice, practice that’s not without it’s fair share of watery eyes, smeared makeup, and saliva you could fill a cup with. So if your cup runneth over, it’s nothing to be ashamed of, quite the contrary, you’re just fortunate enough to have salivary glands (more…)

Recently my personal trainer had the pleasure of beating me up, well I like to think he was beating me up but the truth is he was putting me through it after an almost two year hiatus on the part of both of us. He knows what I am all about and get up to in my spare time, so naturally we share stories and opinions with each other. Only this time was a bit different, not because of anything special, but more because of what he asked me, “so what’s sexy this week?” To be honest, the question made me think because I hadn’t actually given it any thought. I am so used to running around being inspired by pretty much any, and everything that comes across my path, but this week nothing had done that….yet!

At the gym the next day (cause I am obsessive compulsive) while reading the local edition of Vancouver 24 hrs, in an article about sexual consent, it occurred to me that what is sexy this week IS consensual sex! The article talked of pink packages being handed out at Simon Fraser University by the Women’s Centre aptly called the “Consent Toolbox”. The idea is to spread (more…)

How do you screen your clients? How do you know they are legit? How do you know you’ll be safe? Questions that always seemed to be asked of me when providing the services of a Pro-Domina was my main stay.

It wasn’t old hat from the get go, but let’s just say that it certainly didn’t take long! In the early days of using the phone, long before pagers and cell phones, yes I am going back a bit, security was of the utmost of importance. It wasn’t because I was reading horror stories of folks going missing because of sex work, it was because it made COMMON SENSE! (more…)