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We all want them, and for many at the gym on a regular basis, working them is all they do, and work them hard they do. The routines are varied, strenuous, time consuming, and take a great deal of time to produce results. Diet is also a key factor in reducing body fat and the layer that “lovingly” covers them. They also are the spot on the body where stress and emotions, also a play a key factor in keeping them flat and defined and fat free. Flat, tight, toned abdominals, that’s what sexy this week.

Abdominal muscles are not only sexy, but very functional, supporting the body, keeping the guts in place, and from the considered shallow aesthetic of which I am a supporter, seriously HOT! Creating defined abs is a serious challenge, and I am currently working on them myself. My own are tight, somewhat flat, except when I am bloated, and getting more and more defined as my time at the gym increases each time I am there. I work them hard, change out (more…)

We all have them, and in numerous forms. Be it a love of flowers, cars, jewelry, trips to the gym, food and good wine, bras and panties, or beautiful people, WE ALL HAVE THEM! Obsessions! For some it is a simple infatuation, quickly gotten over in a short time, but for those on the move, doing things with ambition, sometimes a little, or lot of inspiration is what those folks need, a healthy obsession, that’s what sexy this week.

Don’t quite understand? Well let me explain with my healthy obsessions.

As I progress through life and age, although I prefer to use the term “mature” because I believe we are all continually doing so, and I hate the word aging, I am striving to continually to perfect or modify myself for good health and longevity. What do I do? One of the things I do is go to the gym 6-7 days a week, of what is soon to be a year long test of myself after a nearly 2 year hiatus. Some would call that obsessive, I call it healthy, and love watching as my body changes. (more…)

After the eyes the next facial element to validate the look of a playful flirt is the mouth. A mouth that displays the upturned corner, or corners of a set of full lips beginning to flush with the heat of blood coursing through pulsing veins and arteries just below the surface of the skin. Lips that transform into many poses of communication, communication all a part of a directed smile, a flirt, creating what’s sexy this week, a mischievous smile.

Let’s be honest with each of all of us, we love the validation, the acceptance, the acknowledgement, whatever it takes! A smile goes a long way, especially when you know it’s sincere. It doesn’t mean you have to follow through, and if you do, so be it! Flirting makes each and of everyone of us on this planet feel good. (more…)

Sexual objectification of the human male is fun and sexy, and let’s remind ourselves, men have been doing it to women for quite some time. Size does matter, and the men know it. They present it, seek out methods to enhance it, and relish in the fact that folks are looking. A bulging crotch presented in full glory is what’s sexy this week.

Bulging crotches that press up against the trappings of the coverings that conceal them are admired by all that are brave enough to admit to staring at them. Sitting at crotch height gives the perfect vantage point for getting a full on good look. Fantasies of size, shape, colour, girth, over take us all in our dirty little imaginings.

Cut or uncut, pierced, tattooed, decorated to the owner’s specifications. Is it a semi that makes it bulge, is it naturally that size soft, is it a cock ring, or padded? Yes padded, better yet packing! Delightful dreaming of what lies beneath concealed. Dreams of unleashing the beast from within, the beast of the male presentation of masculinity worn up and out there, just like memories of the playtex bra that lifted, supported, and separated. Women know the power of the breast, and the men are finally getting it with the power of the bulge.

Does it hang to the right, softly to the right, or straight down the middle? Pointed, full and meaty, skinny and long? Wild and woolly, trimmed and neat, shorn close cropped, or shaved soft and smooth? Balls that are tight close, free without to much swing, or seriously low hanging?

Tighty whiteys, thongs, briefs, boxer briefs, long line athletics? Underwear with a built in cock ring, a pouch to support the goods up and forward, away from the thighs, sliver thread inserts to draw away moisture for those athletically inclined.

The smell, the touch, the look, the taste, the sound. Do it! Blatantly stare, make it obvious, and the men uncomfortable, or not.

Now isn’t that fun? To objectify a man, a man’s crotch?

Good mental and physical health is essential to our well being, we all know that, we’re all taught that from an early age. Having the “where with all” to maintain it, that’s a different story, a life long journey, and to some, a challenge that requires a serious amount of will power. Getting up each and every day to do your exercise isn’t always motivation that comes naturally, not a lot in this world these days is natural and you have “yours truly” to attest to that. What it requires is some serious discipline, serious self discipline, and fitness through discipline is what’s sexy this week.

Each day I go to the gym for my workouts I am greeted by the hard working, committed trainers that go out each and every day to provide their knowledge and care to those that need it. Sharing their expertise and commitment to good mental, and physical health. Let’s get one thing clear, they are human to, and you can bet your bottom dollar they go through the same things any other person involved in the world of fitness does, the challenges to keep up the pace. Not everyone bounds out of bed with a smile or endless energy, not everyone has a clear healthy mind, not everyone is ready for the day. It takes discipline to push yourself through and beyond,  to do so everyday, and only you have the control to do so, no one else.

Recently I did a 24 hour road trip, 12 hours there, 12 hours back, being cooped up in a car non-stop each way. I keep telling myself it is relaxing, calming, I can read my books, magazines, listen to music, have a nap, watch the scenery go by and hope for a glimpse of the wild life that’s here in beautiful British Columbia, but for fuck’s sake, IT’S EXHAUSTING! Who am I trying to kid, I barely napped, didn’t read at all, found the music irritating, and yes, truly did enjoy the black bears, and elk along the way, but the rest, you can have it!

I did venture to the gym at my destination, and that was seriously refreshing, however on my return I started to get back into my routine but on my second day back, slept through an early morning TRX class. Me the “uber” Domina couldn’t even get my own lazy, undisciplined ass out of bed! WTF!!?? I only had myself to blame, no one else, I felt crappy, lazy, and seriously apologetic that I left a hole in my trainer’s class, cause my butt was to snuggled in!

In the words of NIKE, just do it! Get out there and feel good, breathe deeply the beautiful air, work that body, get the blood pumping, and put a smile on that face!

Everyone loves a slow comfortable screw up against the wall, but wait, that’s the shooter! Seriously folks, everyone loves a slow comfortable screw, and this time I am NOT talking about the shooter. We all talk about the “quickie” the “morning quickie”, the “afternoon lunchtime quickie”, the “evening just before the kids go to bed quickie”, or the “just home from work quickie”, the QUICKIE! Nice, passionate, loving, kissing, cuddling, quickies.

Great if that’s what you want, but what about those that want it a bit rough, hard, almost abusive? Passionately abusive, grip me hard, don’t let me out the door on my way to work, finish my make-up, or get off the phone. Grip me, grab me, throw me (more…)

Here in Vancouver as we near the end of summer the temperature seems to fluctuate quite dramatically, as do the humidity levels. Just when you think you have it under control as to what to wear, good old mother nature throws in a curve ball just to keep us on our toes. Over dressed we hit the streets only to soon find ourselves warmer than we wish to be, cutting a swathe through the thick, hot, humid air. A warmth that heats our bodies, kicking into effect what the body does best to try and cool down, sweat, and that’s what’s sexy this week. (more…)

The minute we are conceived deep within our mother’s womb is when it all starts, the essence of our physical health. For all of us it is something we cannot control, for our mother’s body is the vessel that is the environment for us to develop and grow into hopefully a happy, healthy human being. Fed by the nutrients that enter our developing system through our mother’s mouth, however not all that is ingested to enable us to grow is good for you, that is the unfortunate fact we have no control over. However once free of the womb and able to make decisions for oneself (more…)

Albeit a few days late this week, but only for a few reasons. My original intention of Sexy This Week was to stimulate thought, and create a happy awareness of life and the lovely elements that make up our daily lives. Elements that in my eyes, and those of many others, are sexy and beautiful, sexy and beautiful enough to put a smile on a dull face, and make a gloomy mind blossom into colourful thoughts of epic proportions. Life that’s sexy and beautiful, that’s whats sexy this week. (more…)

For those that live in areas where four distinct seasons are what you’re fortunate to indulge year round, such as myself, protection or adornment of some kind for the lips is mandatory. Barometric pressures rise and fall like the underwear of the sexually promiscuous at a constant and consistent rate akin to that of a straight eight cylinder engine roaring up and down the highway. As a result, dryness occurs requiring lubrication to keep things from cracking, drying, and over heating. (more…)