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The lead up to the summer each and every year is full of folks opting for the last minute fix to get that media manipulated ideal of the beach ready body. People falling into the brain washing of a quick solution, and buying that quick fix to get lean and muscled, god-like for what the mental conditioning has led them to believe. On the flipside there are those who never fall into that expertly crafted trap, those who are safe and secure in the knowledge they are happy with the body they currently have, or even care for that matter. A body that is not part of the “media manipulated ideal” and ready to hit the beach at any time. Bodies not controlled by the mainstream ideal, beach ready bodies at anytime, that’s what sexy this week.

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A central point, as of attraction, attention, or activity, to concentrate: to focus one’s thoughts; verb (used without object), focused, focusing or focussed, focussing. To be or become focused.

We need it, we try to do it, we work hard at maintaining it, and struggle very hard to keep it, for the long or short term. With a goal, you need it, it’s not a want, and with it, a certain amount of strength is required to keep it. With your eyes on the prize, you need it, focus, and that’s what sexy this week.

Distraction is easy, and like a bad, if I may be so blunt, FART, it is ever creeping and lingers all the time and everywhere. You hear it, you smell, and sometimes you see it.

I’ll switch gears and use another descriptive, but I think you got the point with the previous 🙂

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We all want a positive outcome to everything we do in our lives, no matter what that is. For me and those in my life, be they acquaintances or my close personal friends, those results are of the happy, life affirming kind. The challenges we set for ourselves as human beings in getting from point A to B putting us through it. Without the fear, excitement, and the need, or want to make a change, most will never get there. Making a plan and committing to it, to get to that end point, GOALS, that’s what sexy this week.

In younger years we set them without actually knowing what they are. We go to school, take up sports, get involved in the arts, or take up hobbies, things or actions done because they are for the most part fun. We weren’t actually thinking about what that meant to take on interests and work to a purpose. (more…)

Stupid, idiot, asshole, phobic, moronic, obtuse, shallow, unintellectual, witless, all other words used to describe the word ignorant. A word I much rather prefer to use because it so blatantly, and quite simply says it in one word, IGNORANT! Unfortunately there are a lot of people on the planet that are just that, nothing more, nothing less, just ignorant. Ignorant of those in society that are different from themselves, different, a quality that should be celebrated, coveted, cherished and adored, difference, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

Life isn’t easy for those that are different, trust me I know, I’m faced with adversity each and every day of my life. For the most part I am fairly resilient and can shrug it off, but when someone is in your face with words that cut deeper than a knife, that then leads to actions of a negative kind, it’s hard to turn and walk away.

For me as a woman who just so happens to be transsexual, I love that I am different, and I never thought I would. I was always trying to blend in with the crowd and fade away. However, it didn’t take me long to understand that being out, loud, and proud, was, and is where it’s at!

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Most women can never have a enough of them, and just when you think they do, another masterful piece of art catches the eye of an admirer out for a stroll on the high street of shopping in any cosmopolitan city. The endless designs, the bright shiny colours, the fabrics, the skins, the buckles, laces, zippers, and snaps, and oh the heels. Those talons reaching ever higher, killer spikes, barely able to balance on, the high heels, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

From a young age, the unbeknownst connoisseur already has a seed that’s been deeply planted into the subconscious mind, it may just be genetics, rooted over time deep within your DNA. Young girls long to run around in Mommy’s shoes dressed as the perfect princess, even the boys are want to try them on!
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We all have it, and we all present it, whether you like it or not, are conscious of it, or are in full on denial and trying very hard to suppress it. It comes naturally, and for those in control of it and enjoying it to their full advantage, it’s hot, empowering, and a turn on, sexuality and that’s what sexy this week.

As a woman who is transsexual, I am bombarded daily from, for lack of a better term, “nut-jobs” who are telling me that my presentation of my sexuality married with my sexual self, is a little overt and to tone it down a few notches. Well I have a few choice words for you folks;

FUCK YOU! (more…)

Not all of us have it self ingrained, not all of us have what it takes to have someone do it for us or command us the ability to have it, or get it, and I’m not talking about the kind and ultimately with the same underlying context. What I am talking about is discipline, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

Wikipedia, my favourite resource defines it as;
the suppression of base desires, and is usually understood to be synonymous with restraint and self-control. Self-discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation. Discipline is when one uses reason to determine the best course of action regardless of one’s desires, which may be the opposite of fun. Virtuous behaviour can be described as when one’s values are aligned with one’s aims: to do what one knows is best and to do it gladly. Continent behaviour, on the other hand, is when one does what one knows is best, but must do it by opposing one’s motivations. (more…)

Wikipedia describes Massage as involving working and acting on the body with pressure – structured, unstructured, stationary, or moving – tension, motion, or vibration, done manually or with mechanical aids. Massage can be applied with the hands, fingers, elbows, knees, forearm, feet, or a massage device. Massage can promote relaxation and well-being, can be a recreational activity, and can be sexual in nature (see Erotic massage). (more…)

Wikipedia foot fetishism defines foot fetishism as;

“a pronounced sexual interest in the feet or footwear. Sigmund Freud considered foot binding as a form of fetishism. For a foot fetishist, points of attraction include the shape and size of the foot and toes (e.g., long toes, short toes, painted toenails, high arches, soles etc.), jewelry (toe rings, anklets, etc.), treatments (such as pedicures or massaging), state of dress (barefoot, sandals, flip flops, high heels, socked feet, etc.), odour, and/or sensory interaction (e.g., smelling the foot, licking, kissing, tickling, biting, sucking toes, etc.)’

If you’re like me, you have an appreciation for pretty much any, and everything, from humanity to the animal kingdom and beyond. Now let me stress, I am talking about appreciation, not sexual attraction in this statement. I am NOT interested in animals outside of homo sapiens for sexual activity, and I am making that clear, and trust me, I do get asked! (more…)

We all have them whether a person cares to admit it or not, and yes I am talking of the sexual kind. However of the non-sexual kind of which we also have, we’re always sharing those thoughts at every opportunity, but the sexual taboo has most folks tight-lipped about their fantasies for fear of being perceived as deviant. Fantasies, that’s what’s sexy this week.

For most of us with thoughts of your sexual partner all dressed up as a cop acting out the latest big arrest of the century on yourself, it’s a sexual turn on. The reasons why we have fantasies are as greatly varied as there are people on the planet. It’s subject matter that has been studied to death and you’ll find that all the research conducted comes to very different conclusions, and as it should, as we are all different. (more…)