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Commodity Me!

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commodity[ kuh-mod-i-tee ]SHOW IPA
SEE SYNONYMS FOR commodity ON THESAURUS.COM
noun, plural com·mod·i·ties.
an article of trade or commerce, especially a product as distinguished from a service.
something of use, advantage, or value.
Stock Exchange. any unprocessed or partially processed good, as grain, fruits, and vegetables, or precious metals.
Obsolete. a quantity of goods.

I’m a commodity, commodity me! Most of us know what “commodity’ means, when applied to inanimate objects, but when applied to living beings, heavens forbid, a furor ensues. The belief held by many, that human beings just cannot, be commodified! Well guess what, you’re wrong!

I’m a sex worker, a service provider of fetish and a good portion of interests therein. I write a ‘good portion’ simply because I have my boundaries, I’m not a “free for all” provider, but a professional that caters to a select set of interests. Just ask me, I’ll gladly supply you with that info.

Along the way I learned a lot about placing ads to advertise myself, and my services. Ads that were text, text with photos, and in the early days or phone chat lines, voice ads. Ads that showcased me, and my services that always appeared in the proper sections provided by the host advertising avenue. Ads that for good reason, were about me.

I knew what I was up to, and focusing on my unique appearance and interests was just the way to get those clients. I commodified myself, no one else did it, me and only me, it was my choice, my idea, promotion of my crafting. There was no gun to my head, or abuser, or pimp, just me. No bad habits, no desperation, no nothing of the sort.

Let’s start from the beginning; I’m 6’1” tall, or 189cm, blonde hair (bleached now) with green eyes, physically fit (because I exercise daily) with measurements that read 36G 30 39 at 190lbs and size 11 feet for all you foot fetishists. My skin is ghost white, (you can see through it to my veins, jury still out for me on that, and no tanning is not an option) so yes I’m Caucasian. I’m unique to myself and the clients that are seeking or in need of someone like me!

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No, the world of sex worker advertising is not a ‘free for all” of wanton ads with clients seeking out every provider for random thrills and chills. Rather, it’s a tool to showcase each service provider with their own unique product and or brand that clients view to seek out those specific providers. The finely perfected skill of “ad creation” providers themselves have honed to sell themselves, their unique skills, service provision, as the commodities they are, and or have created.

What the offended masses don’t understand, and most likely never will, is that we are not the same as one and another. We cater to a multitude of variance in our respective interests. We have different looks, personalities, interests, services, hours, and rates. We are autonomous workers with agency. We like it that way, actually we love it that way!

Because we choose to do as we do, does not mean we demean or undermine ourselves of our confidence and truth to ourselves. We celebrate ourselves, our colleagues, our work. We celebrate our uniqueness, our differences, and our services.

It’s good to be different, to be loud, proud, and our own commodities!

Ageism, It’s Plain Ugly

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age·ism
/ˈājˌizəm/
noun
prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.

Let’s be honest, there is no better to way to describe ageism but as plain ugly, and for many engaged in sex work, they too are no strangers to the ageist attitudes of those ugly enough to inflict it.

Sex work is complex delicate work that nurtures the souls of those that seek out the services of providers gracious enough to that provide what they need. A delicate nurturing of mind, body, and soul, so it’s no wonder that those who become attached to their provider, stick with them for a very long time. Over the course of that relationship factors that usually dictate otherwise are obvious, retirement, an address change to a new city or location, and in many circumstances, even death. Just to name a few.

Sex work is an industry that has nurtured a youthful appearance towards sex and sexuality, in favour of overlooking the fact, the population ages. That sex is only for and had by the physically young, which begs the question; what of the young at heart, mind, and soul? Bonds between a client and provider are forged in steel and for those that are willing to go that extra mile, these bonds can be everlasting.

Most dedicated sex workers I know, are of the same belief, and whether or not they are still providing any services, still maintain some form of communication with their client. You see we don’t “exit” the industry; the rhetoric used by many NGO’s when addressing sex work related issues, to have us leave the life and get a “normal” moralistic job as dictated by many of these groups. Just so you know, we actually don’t truly retire, we step back a bit, to lend a helping hand, have our voices heard, our words reads, offer support, fight in the front lines of activism, and yes, see clients.

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Beyond that, why are so many of us still with our arms outstretched? Well if one thing this industry has taught many of us, and should teach everyone, is compassion, empathy, love for our fellow human beings. Many of us have stories to tell of the good, the bad, and downright ugly. We nurture positive relationships from the seeds of life, sown with the hope of growing into a beautiful bright future. So of course clients grow with their provider they’ve grown to trust, grow with their interests, grow with their relationship, and heavens forbid, grow old.

Those folks out there imposing their unwelcome beliefs are nothing short of rude with their narrow minded ideology. Caught up in a mean spirited and strange world of denial that is severely limiting to no one, other than themselves. A negative ideology belched forth by those who reap what they sow. An ideology that comes even from those within the sex work and worker community.

Ageist behaviour is no different than bullying, teasing, body shaming or any other malicious infliction upon the character of another well meaning person. It’s downright shameful behaviour that easily paints a picture of the perp’s true self!

Those that know, the world of sex work is limitless, full of opportunity, beauty, life, love and happiness, full of growth. Limitless, even if that means growing old as a provider, or as a life long friend with no boundaries of the beauty to give, and receive.

I look forward to the days when I can sit in my old age, and yet still remain true to myself, as a domme, and as a sex worker.

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Lip Prints

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Lip prints left behind for all to enjoy!

The application of lipstick truly is an art form. Luscious lips enhanced in vivid sensual colours to enlarge, define and captivate curious onlookers are all the rage world wide. Well maybe not the “rage”, but certainly a fashion statement that for those in the know are worn well for all the right reasons.

Reasons of my own, but reasons surely shared by the many who adorn those beautiful lips, and certainly those who adore them. Yes I’ve written about painted lips before, and I know I’ll be doing it again and again. Musings that don’t tell the average person who “get’s it” to think twice about it, but rather hopefully encourage those that don’t.

There’s something primal about pouty lips, the frame to the orifice of the face that can bark an order, coo commands, or whisper sweet nothings. The delicate frame that starts off with the drawing of a gentle line of colour from outside corner to outside corner. Accentuating already pouty lips, or enhancing the weak. Using lipstick to paint between those lines, and in my case, always in my case, the slathering of gloss for that added punch.

In the flesh? Simply mesmerizing, but lip prints left behind?!

An even greater lasting impression for those blessed with the pleasure of glimpsing the imprinted rim of a glass. Stamped like a badge of honour, left behind for the thought inclined to foster a fantasy about who those lips belonged too, the personality attached, and the stories they tell.sexy-this-week-lip-prints-2

Prints of desire, intrigue, and possibly of disgust, and none the less, lip prints that command attention. Yes, I write not only of my own thoughts, but those of the many others who’ve dared to let go and dream beyond those stains, evocative, provocative, and beautiful thoughts.

I love to see the residue cosmetic that once enhanced a set of lips. I always see it, as though i somehow know where to look, call it sixth sense. Next time you’re out and about, look around you for that tell tale smudge of colour and let your imagination run wild.

It’s not unlike that of a finger print, layered and loaded with hidden stories.

Lip prints left behind for all to enjoy!

Erotic Art, That’s What’s Sexy This Week

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Erotic art, that’s what sexy this week.

We all know I love art of multiple kinds, but one particular genre of the sexuality kind I truly love, is the erotic. I find it compelling, inviting, thought provoking, and downright sexy. To be inspired by erotic art is the very least I can write, because its a combination of all these elements that help to put a smile on a person’s, and their mind!

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O Force 2 Male Vibrator Review

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O Force 2 Male Vibrator

As many of you remember I was reviewing adult toys in the not so distant past, things changed and I took a break from it. Well I’m back, sort of!

“Therapeutical Aids,” that’s what I call these toys, because sex and orgasm is supposed to be therapeutic, no?

I’m starting back at it with the O Force 2, male masturbator that boasts “five different intensities to produce potent stimulation” provided by two separate motors, the major difference from it’s predecessor the O Force. On first glance, the packaging is simple, sleek, and without the tacky dated pictures of porn stars with that hilariously fake orgasm face. Instructions are printed on the outside of the box with illustrations detailing the 3 AA batteries it requires, the 5 speeds, and that it’s waterproof. Simple enough.

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PODCAST with Mark Hughes on Pulling the Trigger

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Hear me talk the TRUTH about life, love, happiness and how I got here. I talk of sex work, gender, employment, and my life as an activist as one of Vancouver’s fave transsexuals. I had the extreme pleasure to speak with Mark Hughes of Pulling the Trigger in the lead up to PRIDE. What a pleasure to actually express my opinion, something that has gotten me into some trouble, but I don’t truly care. To be a woman with all the right parts for me. It needs to be said. Some of you may like what I have to say, and some won’t……

 

 

Sexy This Week; Sexuality

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We all have it, and we all present it, whether you like it or not, are conscious of it, or are in full on denial and trying very hard to suppress it. It comes naturally, and for those in control of it and enjoying it to their full advantage, it’s hot, empowering, and a turn on, sexuality and that’s what sexy this week.

As a woman who is transsexual, I am bombarded daily from, for lack of a better term, “nut-jobs” who are telling me that my presentation of my sexuality married with my sexual self, is a little overt and to tone it down a few notches. Well I have a few choice words for you folks;

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Tidbits: Old Age Sex and Sexuality

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It’s always ASTOUNDED me how the general populace for the most part think that sex and sexuality stops at a certain age or time in a person’s life, whether it be from meno/manopause, illness, age, death, etc. I could go on here, but I think you get the point. The truth is, it doesn’t, and doesn’t have to either if your libido is waning. Society seems to place that unnecessary belief or as I believe “burden,” on those who are still sexual or displaying their sexuality as though it was a bad thing to be shunned and abhorred by all.

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As Seen In; HUSH MAGAZINE The Crotch Watch with Video to Prove It! LOL

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The Crotch Watch with Video to Prove it!! LOL

 

 

 

You know what I am talking about: the coy glances to the crotches of a man that has caught your eye, quick darting glances as often as a person blinks throughout the day. Its human nature and for those of us that find ourselves in a state of perpetual heat, these are the actions that happen. For most men, low cut waist lines that dip to extremes like the blouses of fashionably dressed women, is just not an option. Their package is their pride and joy, and putting the goods on display through pants that caress the bulges, carrying the meat and potatoes, housing the family jewels, is a learned art that takes time to develop. You have to know what fashion labels to wear with finesse, to wet that appetite of the viewer, a table to be set for a feast soon to be had.

 

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As Seen In: ZoomerSingles, Naughty But Nice Is Never Taboo: Hottest Five Trends In Sex

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Originally Printed in ZoomerSingles.
by; April Lewis aka Lovingly Arrogant
As you may recall in my recent letter to Santa, I said I would rather be naughty than nice. Luckily, I found a way to be both.
I headed to the Taboo…Naughty but Nice Sex Show to check out the latest in Boomer carnal pleasures.
One Saturday night not too long ago I headed downtown to the Taboo…Naughty but Nice Sex Show to check out the latest in Boomer carnal pleasures. The show advertises (more…)