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Commodity Me!

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SEE SYNONYMS FOR commodity ON THESAURUS.COM
noun, plural com·mod·i·ties.
an article of trade or commerce, especially a product as distinguished from a service.
something of use, advantage, or value.
Stock Exchange. any unprocessed or partially processed good, as grain, fruits, and vegetables, or precious metals.
Obsolete. a quantity of goods.

I’m a commodity, commodity me! Most of us know what “commodity’ means, when applied to inanimate objects, but when applied to living beings, heavens forbid, a furor ensues. The belief held by many, that human beings just cannot, be commodified! Well guess what, you’re wrong!

I’m a sex worker, a service provider of fetish and a good portion of interests therein. I write a ‘good portion’ simply because I have my boundaries, I’m not a “free for all” provider, but a professional that caters to a select set of interests. Just ask me, I’ll gladly supply you with that info.

Along the way I learned a lot about placing ads to advertise myself, and my services. Ads that were text, text with photos, and in the early days or phone chat lines, voice ads. Ads that showcased me, and my services that always appeared in the proper sections provided by the host advertising avenue. Ads that for good reason, were about me.

I knew what I was up to, and focusing on my unique appearance and interests was just the way to get those clients. I commodified myself, no one else did it, me and only me, it was my choice, my idea, promotion of my crafting. There was no gun to my head, or abuser, or pimp, just me. No bad habits, no desperation, no nothing of the sort.

Let’s start from the beginning; I’m 6’1” tall, or 189cm, blonde hair (bleached now) with green eyes, physically fit (because I exercise daily) with measurements that read 36G 30 39 at 190lbs and size 11 feet for all you foot fetishists. My skin is ghost white, (you can see through it to my veins, jury still out for me on that, and no tanning is not an option) so yes I’m Caucasian. I’m unique to myself and the clients that are seeking or in need of someone like me!

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No, the world of sex worker advertising is not a ‘free for all” of wanton ads with clients seeking out every provider for random thrills and chills. Rather, it’s a tool to showcase each service provider with their own unique product and or brand that clients view to seek out those specific providers. The finely perfected skill of “ad creation” providers themselves have honed to sell themselves, their unique skills, service provision, as the commodities they are, and or have created.

What the offended masses don’t understand, and most likely never will, is that we are not the same as one and another. We cater to a multitude of variance in our respective interests. We have different looks, personalities, interests, services, hours, and rates. We are autonomous workers with agency. We like it that way, actually we love it that way!

Because we choose to do as we do, does not mean we demean or undermine ourselves of our confidence and truth to ourselves. We celebrate ourselves, our colleagues, our work. We celebrate our uniqueness, our differences, and our services.

It’s good to be different, to be loud, proud, and our own commodities!

Tidbits: Sex, Drugs, and……

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For the love of sex, drugs, and ……..

I can’t stress enough how I am definitely no angel, never have been, and probably never will be, but as I move on in life I seriously find myself loving drug free sex. As I mentioned in Sexy This Week # 34. It has so many perks, and I for one can’t tell you enough of how I feel I about that. Ok I do love a good glass of wine, or two in the lead up to a good romp, but the prolonged sloppiness that comes from illicit substances that have gone well beyond their due date leaves me with the feeling it is something to be desired, and I am not desiring that.

I like to enjoy the time with quality over quantity, so I am able to have more throughout the day or go again and again without the fight to have the ultimate orgasm that just ends in frustration. Not to mention the angst a partner, or two may be going through long after your done and trying to sleep or come down.

Frustration that can be coercive, sad, humiliating, annoying, or end up in a seriously bad situation. Let’s remind ourselves that feelings change when you are on another plain, and change they can, and very rapidly.

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Tidbits: Old Age Sex and Sexuality

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It’s always ASTOUNDED me how the general populace for the most part think that sex and sexuality stops at a certain age or time in a person’s life, whether it be from meno/manopause, illness, age, death, etc. I could go on here, but I think you get the point. The truth is, it doesn’t, and doesn’t have to either if your libido is waning. Society seems to place that unnecessary belief or as I believe “burden,” on those who are still sexual or displaying their sexuality as though it was a bad thing to be shunned and abhorred by all.

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Tidbits; 5 Things You Don’t Know About Strippers (Until You Are One)

This is so true, and I can tell you that having had many friends over the years that have been or are exotic dancers most can and will seriously relate to this. Now for those of you who are not a part of this world and may have some bizarre pre-conceived notions, you may want to have a read and learn a few things.

Originally posted in Cracked By Robert Evans, Amanda Mannen, Meredith, Emily, Salvatore, Layne, Laura, Zooey, Helen  (January 25, 2015)

 

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If prostitution is the world’s oldest profession, stripping may very well be the second oldest (more…)

Wacky Wednesday; Brothel Menu From 1912

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How civilized were they? The folks in jolly old England were truly having their jollies off and in good, filthy, fun fashion!

The language has changed since then, but for most of my readers I am sure you’ll be able to figure out what it all means, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out what “squatting on prick means!” For all you history enthusiasts this little piece of literature comes from the London brothel of Mrs. F. A. Tasse and yes proves the point that the word FUCK, was well in use long before the 20th century. Ever heard of the proclamation “fornication under command of the king” (FUCK)? Whether you believe it or not, it makes for a great read! (more…)

Tidbits; What Sort of Porn Would Brits Miss The Most

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In another asinine show of control over it’s citizens,  the British government is once again telling them, who they consider STUPID, what they can and cannot watch when it comes to pornography and the type of depictions they can indulge. Let’s remind ourselves of the key word here, depictions, meaning NOT REAL, fake, and if it is a real spanking, as we all know a lot of folks truly do like that sort of activity, including myself.  What pisses me off about all this is the self righteous religious, moralistic right thinking they continually know what’s best for everyone else. When in actual fact they don’t even know what’s good for themselves!! (more…)

TIDBITS: Debunking 6 Myths About People in the Sex Industry

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This article first appeared in Everyday Feminism and embellished with pictures to fit the this blog.

Debunking 6 Myths about People in the Sex Industry

November 5, 2014 by Laura Kacere and Sandra Kim

They navigate and move between the spaces of visibility and invisibility, criminal and citizen, safety and danger, exploitation and empowerment.

People engaged in the commercial sex industry are constantly navigating these margins.

Amidst stigma and invisibility, they suffer high rates of violence and discrimination, and yet are too often left out of the conversation around violence against women. (more…)

As Seen In; Georgia Straight, New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

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New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

by CARLITO PABLO on NOV 6, 2014 at 3:32 PM
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Jessica, a sex worker, spoke out at a press conference critical of the passage of Bill C-36.
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Lets Not Import Canada’s Sex Work Bill

Lets Not Import Canada’s Sex Work Bill

Canada’s new proposals criminalize johns, while decriminalizing those engaged in prostitution.

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  • Pace Society/TwitterThough it has received little coverage in American media, Canada has spent the past 10 months in an intense debate about its prostitution laws. Last December, the nation’s Supreme Court struck down basically all anti-prostitution laws on the grounds that they violated Canada’s Constitutional Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The elimination of prostitution laws will go into effect this December, and the Conservative Canadian government has been rushing to get a replacement in place that will satisfy the Supreme Court. (more…)

Tidbits; Think Of The Children

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Conversations around sex and sex work have always been a challenge, but especially so, when children are around. Folks seem so conflicted when it comes to any form of education, advocacy, images, representations or even depictions, implied or not. Now me as the eternal devil’s advocate I am always asking why, what’s this conflict, where does it come from? The reasons are endless, fortunately for me, I’m in social circles that have a very healthy outlook on sex, sex of any kind, or anything in general to do with it. We talk about, look at it, have it, express it, and of course educate the young around us. No we’re not having it front of them, or producing images, writings, or other as they’ll find it on their own, the curious always do, but those I know, definitely don’t shy away from it.

So, let’s think of children! Does that mean we should keep them forever sheltered about what is going in the world? The world of our physiological needs, biological needs? Needs for the most part that are beyond our control. (more…)