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If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to feel that after a while you have become stuck in a rut in the bedroom. This is common and easily fixed. There are many things that you can try to add a bit of spark back into your relationship and make things a little more exciting. Whether it’s trying new things together, like couples tantric massage in London, or experimenting with new toys or positions. Trying new things can have a positive impact on your life and your relationship. Here are a few benefits of experimenting in the bedroom. 

Get in touch with your sexuality

Trying new things is a great way to find out what you really like in the bedroom. If you’re not sure how to explore, talk to your partner and come up with new ideas or do some research. Is there’s something you’d like to try, now is the time! If you’re not trying new things, you won’t know what you truly want and desire in the bedroom. Experimenting helps you to determine your likes and dislikes, so you can improve your sex life for the better. 

Happiness 

Experimenting with your wants and needs means that you can achieve great sex every time, and because of this, your mood will improve. The more you experiment and the more fun in the bedroom you have, the more feel-good hormones are released, and you’ll be able to feel the benefits. When you know what your desires are in the bedroom, this can lead to feeling fulfilled and content with the overall experience, and releasing some happy hormones is a plus! 

Sex toys nowadays are becoming more refined and modern with something to suit everyone’s needs. Whether you’re into using restraints for bondage to spice up your sex life or looking for a specific vibrator to ignite your passion during solo stimulation, there is a toy for you. With such a wide range of sex toys available for all different kinds of pleasure and sensation, it can be hard to know where to start when choosing the best one for you. Here are some of the best sex toys for 2022 so far.

Massager glove

The massager glove is a great way of connecting with your partner in the bedroom. Massages help to up the heat during your alone time and can elevate the experience to a new level. It is easy and comfortable to use, and it is one of the less-daunting toys you might find. The glove is covered in metallic balls but still flexible, making sure you can reach all those hard-to-get areas. Why not try under the legs, arms neck, or anywhere else the mood might take you? The glove can be used solo but for best results, use it on a partner for full-body, all-over pleasure. 

Graphite anal plug 

Anal plugs are great when used as an introduction to anal sex, so why not opt for a dainty product that will not only feel comfortable inside but has a pretty, glittering gem to the base? You’ll be free to make any movements with this small toy and can be sure that it will fit tightly, but not cause you any pain. You can use it during foreplay or intercourse to engage all your erogenous zones. The graphite gives this toy a gorgeous, sleek shine and is made of skin-friendly material. If you’re looking for something pleasurable and stylish, this anal plug is the one for you. 

Sex, health, beauty and lifestyle. I’m all about them, call me shameless, see if I care? Unbeknownst to me they’ve been my mantra for quite some time, I’ve just never consciously put words to it. Why even in my own “dazed confusions” I’ve branded myself around those four ideologies. Jokingly I’ve proclaimed of myself as having said many times “I was never deep”, but humour aside, and for those that know me, I’m deeper than the oceans blue. So……. let me tell you what I’m up to, and I’ll break it down under each of those four principles .

SEX

In all my years of service provision as a pro domina I’ve had the pleasure, and displeasure, of handling a lot of sex toys. Let me tell you, there is a lot of crap out there. I just don’t know who these folks are that come up with some of that stuff. If it’s just to make money, they’ve certainly succeeded in duping the unsuspecting consumer. Hopefully I’ll be able to shed some light on that with the reviews I plan to continue on.

However it’s not just about sex toys, lubes, lotions and potions, with sex, there is so much more. Sexuality, sexual identity, preference, activities, growth and healing, all kinds of aspects, and my opinions and musings to share. I think you get my drift.

Lip Love, a little hidden gem tucked away in a discrete little black box, another delightful surprise from the folks at Bestvibe.com

The Lip Love, from what the box says, is made in Berlin, Germany and meets all the European standards for physical, environmental and recycling requirements. Something I truly love and advocate for because again, some manufacturers in the sex toy industry, just don’t seem to give a damn what we put on or in our bodies. 

In this day and age, the advancement of these delicious works of art, have truly taken on a very life form catering to the diverse needs of every consumer. The Lip Love is no exception. Nestled inside the box in it’s foam holder is the vibrant pink beauty that resembles a seed pod from some exotic plant with what looks like an eye irrigation cup atop a silver collar on the on the opposite end. 

It’s sleek and sexy and cradles very comfortably in either hand with two control buttons that are easy to use, and decipher, facing towards the user or away from. One button for on/off and pause, the other to toggle through the 8 vibration and……….sucking modes. Yes that’s right sucking!  

This little baby is designed with vibration and suction in mind for those needing a little more stimulation than the average run of the mill vibration. Ok, so the vibration comes from the motor providing the suction. It’s all in the suction that the action takes place! Three straight up suction settings, low, medium, high, and a further five variable suction settings. 

It’s strong and intense, trust me I’ve tested it at great length, and absolutely love it. I will say that the strengths of suction may be a little too intense for the overly sensitive and suggest new users proceed with caution. However it won’t take long for the new, to become seasoned users, and I can assure you of that! 

Aside from the obvious suggestion in the name of the device, the Lip Love is not just for use on the nether regions of women, but has exciting applications for use on the nipples as well. Let’s not stop there, it’s wonderful for all genders. This little pink devil is also fabulous on all regions below the belt. I won’t go into detail here, because that’s another story all together, but I’m sure if your creative you can figure it out. 🙂 

commodity[ kuh-mod-i-tee ]SHOW IPA
SEE SYNONYMS FOR commodity ON THESAURUS.COM
noun, plural com·mod·i·ties.
an article of trade or commerce, especially a product as distinguished from a service.
something of use, advantage, or value.
Stock Exchange. any unprocessed or partially processed good, as grain, fruits, and vegetables, or precious metals.
Obsolete. a quantity of goods.

I’m a commodity, commodity me! Most of us know what “commodity’ means, when applied to inanimate objects, but when applied to living beings, heavens forbid, a furor ensues. The belief held by many, that human beings just cannot, be commodified! Well guess what, you’re wrong!

I’m a sex worker, a service provider of fetish and a good portion of interests therein. I write a ‘good portion’ simply because I have my boundaries, I’m not a “free for all” provider, but a professional that caters to a select set of interests. Just ask me, I’ll gladly supply you with that info.

age·ism
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noun
prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.

Let’s be honest, there is no better to way to describe ageism but as plain ugly, and for many engaged in sex work, they too are no strangers to the ageist attitudes of those ugly enough to inflict it.

Sex work is complex delicate work that nurtures the souls of those that seek out the services of providers gracious enough to that provide what they need. A delicate nurturing of mind, body, and soul, so it’s no wonder that those who become attached to their provider, stick with them for a very long time. Over the course of that relationship factors that usually dictate otherwise are obvious, retirement, an address change to a new city or location, and in many circumstances, even death. Just to name a few.

Sex work is an industry that has nurtured a youthful appearance towards sex and sexuality, in favour of overlooking the fact, the population ages. That sex is only for and had by the physically young, which begs the question; what of the young at heart, mind, and soul? Bonds between a client and provider are forged in steel and for those that are willing to go that extra mile, these bonds can be everlasting.

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Lip prints left behind for all to enjoy!

The application of lipstick truly is an art form. Luscious lips enhanced in vivid sensual colours to enlarge, define and captivate curious onlookers are all the rage world wide. Well maybe not the “rage”, but certainly a fashion statement that for those in the know are worn well for all the right reasons.

Reasons of my own, but reasons surely shared by the many who adorn those beautiful lips, and certainly those who adore them. Yes I’ve written about painted lips before, and I know I’ll be doing it again and again. Musings that don’t tell the average person who “get’s it” to think twice about it, but rather hopefully encourage those that don’t.

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Erotic art, that’s what sexy this week.

We all know I love art of multiple kinds, but one particular genre of the sexuality kind I truly love, is the erotic. I find it compelling, inviting, thought provoking, and downright sexy. To be inspired by erotic art is the very least I can write, because its a combination of all these elements that help to put a smile on a person’s, and their mind!

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O Force 2 Male Vibrator

As many of you remember I was reviewing adult toys in the not so distant past, things changed and I took a break from it. Well I’m back, sort of!

“Therapeutical Aids,” that’s what I call these toys, because sex and orgasm is supposed to be therapeutic, no?

I’m starting back at it with the O Force 2, male masturbator that boasts “five different intensities to produce potent stimulation” provided by two separate motors, the major difference from it’s predecessor the O Force. On first glance, the packaging is simple, sleek, and without the tacky dated pictures of porn stars with that hilariously fake orgasm face. Instructions are printed on the outside of the box with illustrations detailing the 3 AA batteries it requires, the 5 speeds, and that it’s waterproof. Simple enough.

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Hear me talk the TRUTH about life, love, happiness and how I got here. I talk of sex work, gender, employment, and my life as an activist as one of Vancouver’s fave transsexuals. I had the extreme pleasure to speak with Mark Hughes of Pulling the Trigger in the lead up to PRIDE. What a pleasure to actually express my opinion, something that has gotten me into some trouble, but I don’t truly care. To be a woman with all the right parts for me. It needs to be said. Some of you may like what I have to say, and some won’t……

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