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A Playful Flirt and a Giggle

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A playful flirt and a giggle, that’s what’s sexy this week.

Human interaction is super important, interaction of the positive kind. Forget the stalkers, sleazebags, and despicable low-lifes who truly only deserve a baseball bat upside the head for a little tune-up. No I’m talking about the attention from playful fun when one is out and about, that comes from innocent friendliness.

Innocent is the key word here, since many interpret these actions as seduction. Misinterpretations made by people who don’t have the skills to know the difference, as it shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out.

Over a coffee with my girlfriend Brit, a sassy buxom blonde, I sat and listened as she told me of her exploits while on her last holiday. Exploits I realized, are not far off from my own when I’m out in the world. What we also agreed on was the fun that came from a playful compliment, or a flirt. Fun that we both knew wasn’t going to go anywhere except validation as the people we are. Gregarious, life loving gals, who dress-up for every occasion including a trip to the laundry room!

I like a little validation as I’m someone who loves life, and lives it. Again knowing the difference between good and bad validation is something that needs to be taught, an element similar to what I wrote in my previous Sexy This Week, The Art of Casual Conversation with a Stranger . Knowing the difference between the two types, and knowing how to appreciate a good flirt and giggle isn’t hard. However making it hard for folks to be human and show appreciation, is taught and learned behaviour. Behaviour hot on the hysteria that everyone is out to get you and commit something heinous to your well being.

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Folks need to lighten up, loosen up and have fun again. Learn that a playful flirt and giggle can a go long way in making a person feel good, love life, and enjoy living it!

The Art of Casual Conversation with a Stranger, for Sexy This Week

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The art of casual conversation with a stranger, that’s what’s sexy this week.

Actually, it’s more like the lost art of casual conversation, and all a person needs to do is look around themselves once they’ve unglued their faces from their phones. Those little devices we’ve wired ourselves to the world with, the electronic annoyance that has become for many, a buffer from actual connection to the land of the living.

We see it everyday, folks walking into lamp posts, into traffic, and glaring down into their hands. Playing bullshit games at fevered pitches, games designed to control you from having any personal thought of your own, let alone observance of anything or anyone around you. All focused on texting nonsense to someone you’d rather not be. Yes this is bit of a personal rant, but it’s one many of us share. Look around you and see just what I am writing about here. On the bus, train, plane, street, waiting rooms, even some dinner tables folks with that zombie stare and glare.

I myself have taken to the pleasure of looking around myself when out and about. Being aware of what’s around me and who’s around me. Not just because of my personal three feet of space I covet, but because I want to take it all in and see what the real world has to offer. The trees, bees, plants and seas, mountains in the morning, to name a few, but another important element, the faces of those doing the same as I.

I’ve made it clear about how I feel about giving a stranger a compliment, or look them in the eyes when addressing someone. It’s about connection, human connection of a non-sexual kind, an uplifting positive connection, a good connection. It’s stimulating, pleasurable, eye opening, and a learning experience, feelings I can’t begin to describe. I knew when I sat to write this that there were folks who have studied and written papers on just how good it is to talk with strangers, I just didn’t know how many. Do a google search when you’re not out and about, you’ll see what I mean.

To me coffee shops, streets, busses, trains, planes, and the world of people was meant for living and communicating face to face, talking. Introducing sexy-this week- lost-art-casual-conversation-with-strangers-street-talkyourself, saying hello, paying a compliment, and hearing someone else’s story, to learn it, love it, and possibly live it.

I never understood why many favour teaching their children not to talk to strangers, rather than teach them how to talk to strangers, because it is an art. It’s an art that has been lost for some time and should be taught from an early age, and for those in dispute, the internet has already proven that thought. The nasty truth with all these trolls and predators on the loose behind their screens. Cowards actually, because the real of face to face communication is for the brave who choose to chance it.

The art of casual conversation with a stranger, that’s whats sexy this week.

 

The Pretty Little Leaf

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The Pretty little leaf is what’s sexy this week!

There I was, shit, showered and shaved, dressed and ready for the day, over my morning anxiety with my “kick ass” attitude dialed in at a level ten as I went out the door to face the day. My clothes perfectly coordinated of complimentary colours, matching jewelry, makeup applied with the precision of surgeon, and my hair all neatly hot-rollered and set. I was ready! With chin held high, shoulders back, tits out, and stomach in, I walked to the bus stop to patiently wait with all the other morning riders.

On the bus, I made myself comfortable for the 15 minute ride to the skytrain reading the morning paper as we rode over the bumps and potholes that dotted the downtown streets of beautiful Vancouver; the city I call home. The bus’s arrival at the skytrain always greats me with a certain amount of irony, its the skytrain, but at this juncture it runs underground. It always gives me a brief moment of contemplation as I descend to the train’s platform quietly crop dusting as I make my way deeper into the ground.

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The Male Chest in a Fitted Dress Shirt, That’s Whats Sexy This Week!

I’m not one to shy away from shameless exploitation of the sexes, especially if it’s all in good fun. As we slowly ebb into fall, all those beach bodies on glorious flagrant display are opting to modestly disappear behind the opaque barriers of fabric. With the fall, comes the addition of clothes for the creatures of the beach, setting the stage for a new form of ogling to take place.

The male chest in a well fitted dress shirt, that’s what sexy this week.

I love the cut of a well tailored dress shirt and the way it fits the body. The buttons, the cuffs and collar, yoke, colours and patterns, sewn together to form the garment worn for business, casual, or a hot night out. Well pressed and starched to lay smooth across a well defined chest and dutifully conceal the results of long hours at the gym.

 

 

 

 

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Fairytales and Castles, That’s What’s Sexy This Week

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My family hails from a small but steeped in history country, Denmark, a country of fairytales and castles. Soft rolling hills, green pastures, 1000 year old cities. A country surrounded by bodies of water that cradle this now peaceful land like two gentle hands that meet at the tip top in a place called Skagen. The trip to Skagen is magical as you drive you through countrysides of soft rolling hills, and sand dunes that have a life of their own, that literally eat up the buildings of yesteryear. Creamy white sand reclaiming what man has made returning it to the elements from whence it came. Sexy This week-fairytales-castles-Skagens-sand-engulfed-churchA road trip we took many times through country dotted with architecture and structures from a time gone by. Structures of stone and metal, manors, and castles of grandeur, that for most people can only imagine seeing in their dreams. Dreams that bring to life stories, feelings, and thoughts of hope and the future, fairytales and castles, that’s what sexy this week.

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