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Most people are and don’t know what is right or wrong when it comes to gendering a person, and to be honest, most don’t and won’t unless helped with a little gentle education on the subject. Especially when asking a question on the subject that comes from a place of genuine compassionate ignorance, not “red-neck curiosity. As a person who considers herself a good ambassador on the subject, I will step up to the plate and educate those wanting to know, and I won’t be offended for them asking. You have to ask yourself; how would they know if you didn’t educate them, they’re not mind readers are they?

Although I agree with a lot of it, some of it I don’t, I do label myself, a label as woman who just so happens to be transsexual. Yes I’ve gone through a “little” corrective procedure to be that woman, but let me reiterate, I am woman first and foremost!

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I get asked questions similar to this statement, in nature, A LOT!

Some are pleasant, some ignorant, and many downright, for lack of a better term, FUCKING STUPID! Questions like, what do you see in her or him? They’re fat. They’re short! He’s ugly!  She’s ugly What’s up with that? Is that a guy or a girl? How can you like “that”?

The list of questions and statements goes on and on at dizzying rates of speed that I just can’t keep up, nor do I want to! In my quest to finish off a TIDBIT I am working on, I came across this amazing article that answers the elements of what I am talking about here quite well. The only difference is that it hits home about stereotypes of masculinity, sex, and gender, and I am in a good position to share in all of what is written in the article, possibly because of my unique set of circumstances.

As most of you know, I LOVE it all, I LOVE people! I love masculine men, I love feminine men, I love masculine women, and I love feminine women, and definitely everyone in between pushing those boundaries. My social circle is large and varied and I wouldn’t have it any other way, and those of you that have checked out all my social pages and the photos I post, you’ll see that I completely live what I say here.

I know I present a certain image, but it is my own presentation that for many, is stereotyped as to what I supposed to be attracted to based on that image, an image not superficial to me, but superficial to some others. Yet it’s those who have that stereotype and belief of me, that I should be in what their narrow minds tend to believe!

SO have a read, it’s a great article with so many parallels. (more…)

To be or not to be? That’s always been the question, and most likely always will be. When I set out on my own journey to be happy in my own skin, I must say I was somewhat naive to certain aspects that were to come along with it. Aspects that girls, and women go through on a daily basis. I am not going to outright spell it out for you, but because I can, and will, within the context of this tidbit, be somewhat vague.

I’ve always been androgynous, something I was able to use to my advantage in my early days of advertising professional fetish services; “Androgynous Pretty Boy/Girl Will Whip You Into Shape!” It paid off, clients got it and so did the rest in my social circle. At the time I was still very much immersed in dealing with my own dysphoria, (more…)