Inspiration

Sexy This Week: Difference

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Stupid, idiot, asshole, phobic, moronic, obtuse, shallow, unintellectual, witless, all other words used to describe the word ignorant. A word I much rather prefer to use because it so blatantly, and quite simply says it in one word, IGNORANT! Unfortunately there are a lot of people on the planet that are just that, nothing more, nothing less, just ignorant. Ignorant of those in society that are different from themselves, different, a quality that should be celebrated, coveted, cherished and adored, difference, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

Life isn’t easy for those that are different, trust me I know, I’m faced with adversity each and every day of my life. For the most part I am fairly resilient and can shrug it off, but when someone is in your face with words that cut deeper than a knife, that then leads to actions of a negative kind, it’s hard to turn and walk away.group-hug

For me as a woman who just so happens to be transsexual, I love that I am different, and I never thought I would. I was always trying to blend in with the crowd and fade away. However, it didn’t take me long to understand that being out, loud, and proud, was, and is where it’s at!

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Sexy This Week; Sexuality

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We all have it, and we all present it, whether you like it or not, are conscious of it, or are in full on denial and trying very hard to suppress it. It comes naturally, and for those in control of it and enjoying it to their full advantage, it’s hot, empowering, and a turn on, sexuality and that’s what sexy this week.

As a woman who is transsexual, I am bombarded daily from, for lack of a better term, “nut-jobs” who are telling me that my presentation of my sexuality married with my sexual self, is a little overt and to tone it down a few notches. Well I have a few choice words for you folks;

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Sexy This Week: Discipline

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Not all of us have it self ingrained, not all of us have what it takes to have someone do it for us or command us the ability to have it, or get it, and I’m not talking about the kind and ultimately with the same underlying context. What I am talking about is discipline, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

Wikipedia, my favourite resource defines it as;
the suppression of base desires, and is usually understood to be synonymous with restraint and self-control. Self-discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation. Discipline is when one uses reason to determine the best course of action regardless of one’s desires, which may be the opposite of fun. Virtuous behaviour can be described as when one’s values are aligned with one’s aims: to do what one knows is best and to do it gladly. Continent behaviour, on the other hand, is when one does what one knows is best, but must do it by opposing one’s motivations. (more…)

Sexy This Week: Feet

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Wikipedia foot fetishism defines foot fetishism as;

“a pronounced sexual interest in the feet or footwear. Sigmund Freud considered foot binding as a form of fetishism. For a foot fetishist, points of attraction include the shape and size of the foot and toes (e.g., long toes, short toes, painted toenails, high arches, soles etc.), jewelry (toe rings, anklets, etc.), treatments (such as pedicures or massaging), state of dress (barefoot, sandals, flip flops, high heels, socked feet, etc.), odour, and/or sensory interaction (e.g., smelling the foot, licking, kissing, tickling, biting, sucking toes, etc.)’

If you’re like me, you have an appreciation for pretty much any, and everything, from humanity to the animal kingdom and beyond. Now let me stress, I am talking about appreciation, not sexual attraction in this statement. I am NOT interested in animals outside of homo sapiens for sexual activity, and I am making that clear, and trust me, I do get asked! (more…)

Sexy This Week: Fantasies

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We all have them whether a person cares to admit it or not, and yes I am talking of the sexual kind. However of the non-sexual kind of which we also have, we’re always sharing those thoughts at every opportunity, but the sexual taboo has most folks tight-lipped about their fantasies for fear of being perceived as deviant. Fantasies, that’s what’s sexy this week.

For most of us with thoughts of your sexual partner all dressed up as a cop acting out the latest big arrest of the century onsexy cop yourself, it’s a sexual turn on. The reasons why we have fantasies are as greatly varied as there are people on the planet. It’s subject matter that has been studied to death and you’ll find that all the research conducted comes to very different conclusions, and as it should, as we are all different. (more…)

Sexy This Week: Eye Contact

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It’s not hard to understand why we as human beings are so frustrated with today’s society of go go go at 100/kmh into a brick wall. We are slowly being programmed into believing we have to go faster and faster to get things done, things we don’t even remember or at many times know why we even are doing them!

Bad-phone-serviceTo top it all off, everything is slowly becoming automated making the need for human beings to do the work obsolete! More people with less jobs to do because of automation. How does that work? Take for instance recorded messages, press 1 for complaints, press 2 for grief, press 3 for just because we want to piss you off, press 4 to blow up this recording! Not hard to understand why most press 0 to bypass it all to get to a “real” person.

Along with this we are losing our ability to properly communicate with people when we are not on the phone, out in the actual world doing things, things like living. When we are communicating it is in the form of short quick vocal bursts with no eye contact being made, always or usually looking off into space or down at the ground. Why? Who knows, my suggestion is to look up, face whoever it is and look into those eyes. Making eye contact, that’s what’s sexy this week. (more…)

Sexy This Week: Praise From A Stranger

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There you are walking down the street minding your own business, when suddenly a complete stranger says to you,

“I just wanted to tell you, that you look really nice!”

Catching you completely off guard!

What do you do, ignore it, keep on going, politely smile, or nothing at all? I’ll tell you, you stop and politely acknowledge the praise from a stranger that has been graciously presented your way, and praise from a stranger is what’s sexy this week.

Provided it is praise that is not with an ulterior motive of which is pretty damned easy to determine if your not an idiot, or praise which may be and warranted or wanted, it’s still praise that should be warmly and most graciously accepted! (more…)

Tidbits: Comfortable In My Own Skin

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Am I comfortable in my own skin?

Recently I was asked if I thought I shared to much of myself through all this social media we are all glued at our finger tips to. My answer was a quick and abrupt NO!

Let me tell you why If you’re at all interested in reading to find out.

For the most part I would say that 80% of my journey up until this point has been traversed alone. A road that is sometimes straight and narrow, wide and winding, but for the most part, steep and treacherous. Challenges abound around every corner, out of sight, having left me with no tools or resources to face those challenges, except head on. I’ve learned a lot with this type of approach, but there really was no other way to deal with the challenges I did not see coming. I thought life for the most part would be easy, or at least somewhat along this road, and how wrong I was!

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Sexy This Week: Accepting Compliments

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I’ve never been good at accepting praise, and maybe because for a period of time I never truly believed in myself, but always in others. Something I am reluctant to admit, I still do! However from time to time I am gently, and sometimes not so gently reminded to take a compliment or accept the praise given to me by those close to me, and even those that have come across my path for a short time.

One thing I do know, is that I am not alone when it comes to brushing off a compliment, or hiding in the shadows when a little praise is passed my way. You know who I am talking about, YOU! There are many of you out there that do the same, and trust me when I say there have been many times when I told someone to shut up and take the compliment! Taking a compliment, that’s whats sexy this week!

Again I was reminded about the power of voice, and in particular mine, when I met up with an old friend from my earlier fetish days here Vancouver when I was hosting Body Perve’s Presentation of Fetish Night some 20 years ago. Yes, that’s right, 20 years ago!

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Sexy This Week: Bodies In Motion

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The human body is an amazing machine that for the most part, many take for granted without a thought or a care as to how it works and the great care it takes to keep it running at optimal performance. We eat, sleep, and breathe, the basics, to keep our bodies running smoothly, but each of those three basics are much more complex than the oblivious and ignorant care to take the time to learn about. Learning about how your body works, and the process to maintain it’s mobility and optimal functioning, that’s whats sexy the week.

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