Health/Wellness

Sexy This Week; The Kindness of Strangers

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Life is sexy and everything in it, at least it should be to be each and every person. It’s not always about in your face sex, sex, sex, which however is what I think about on an almost constant basis, but for those that read my work and follow my activism, you’ll know I am about so much more. We all like to feel good, and we get to feel good in so many different ways, through communication, touch, laughter and of course sex, but how about kindness? The kindness of strangers, that’s what sexy this week.

Forgive me for being overly philosophical or emotional, but I have met a lot of folks in my travels, and folks that I don’t even know. Folks that make it a habit of saying hello or generally complimenting me on something they have seen me do, or read about. As a public figure, and no not on the level of Hollywood personalities, but a local community personality, I am definitely out there in the public eye. Just research that in my news section or by doing a lovely google search. (more…)

Wacky Wednesday; Wash Your Mimsy

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Feeling not so fresh, especially the women? Well this is what I found on my internet travels, and whenever I see something like this it makes me laugh my ass off! Mimsy cleansing!

Why?

Well ask yourself why no reference is made to a man soaping up his “Johnson, whittling the stick, polishing the pole, cleaning the cheese?” Well as popular culture would have you believe, only women have problems with freshness.

However, I beg to differ!

Case in point; I had a fetish client come to my door one time for a little slap and tickle of the CBT kind, and when it came time to grip his pole with my leather clad hand for a healthy round of gopher smacking, I wasn’t sure whether to puke, get the crackers (more…)

Sexy This Week; Ecstasy Faces

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We all make them, and for those of us that enjoy the heated throes of passion we certainly don’t care what we look like while doing so. Open mouthed, closed eyes, furrowed brows, and droplets of sweat accumulating to run in rivulets down a quivering cheek, make up the look, the look of ecstasy faces, and that’s what sexy this week.

Facial expressions vary from person to person during sexual activity, whether it be solo or involved. The face takes on a life of it’s own that is directly connected to the excitement produced by the stimuli that get the body’s juices flowing.

The obvious feature is the eyes, that become half closed, glazed over orbs enraptured in a hypnotic dreamlike state of bliss. The mouth becomes an open set of quivering lips that slowly pull back to reveal a wet chasm gasping for air that releases soft bellowing moans of delight. Teeth so white and a darting tongue that seeks out the mouth of another eager to lock lips and explore tongue to tongue. (more…)

Sexy This Week; Tight Abs

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We all want them, and for many at the gym on a regular basis, working them is all they do, and work them hard they do. The routines are varied, strenuous, time consuming, and take a great deal of time to produce results. Diet is also a key factor in reducing body fat and the layer that “lovingly” covers them. They also are the spot on the body where stress and emotions, also a play a key factor in keeping them flat and defined and fat free. Flat, tight, toned abdominals, that’s what sexy this week.

Abdominal muscles are not only sexy, but very functional, supporting the body, keeping the guts in place, and from the considered shallow aesthetic of which I am a supporter, seriously HOT! Creating defined abs is a serious challenge, and I am currently working on them myself. My own are tight, somewhat flat, except when I am bloated, and getting more and more defined as my time at the gym increases each time I am there. I work them hard, change out (more…)

Tidbits; What Sort of Porn Would Brits Miss The Most

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In another asinine show of control over it’s citizens,  the British government is once again telling them, who they consider STUPID, what they can and cannot watch when it comes to pornography and the type of depictions they can indulge. Let’s remind ourselves of the key word here, depictions, meaning NOT REAL, fake, and if it is a real spanking, as we all know a lot of folks truly do like that sort of activity, including myself.  What pisses me off about all this is the self righteous religious, moralistic right thinking they continually know what’s best for everyone else. When in actual fact they don’t even know what’s good for themselves!! (more…)

Wacky Wednesday; Doggie Dildo Chew Toys

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Dildos find themselves in the oddest of places, not just the familiar spaces originally designed and intended for. Once a person has had their fill they seem to end up in the bottom of the garbage can so no one can see the evidence of what has been getting you off as of late.west-end-dildo-chew-toy

However here in the picturesque West End of Vancouver as evidenced by this lovely picture (to the right) a friend took, and immediately shared with me (although I can’t figure out why) they don’t always make it to the intended place of discard. That also includes toys that aren’t quite ready for the bone yard. (more…)

Sexy This Week; Healthy Obsessions

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We all have them, and in numerous forms. Be it a love of flowers, cars, jewelry, trips to the gym, food and good wine, bras and panties, or beautiful people, WE ALL HAVE THEM! Obsessions! For some it is a simple infatuation, quickly gotten over in a short time, but for those on the move, doing things with ambition, sometimes a little, or lot of inspiration is what those folks need, a healthy obsession, that’s what sexy this week.

Don’t quite understand? Well let me explain with my healthy obsessions.

As I progress through life and age, although I prefer to use the term “mature” because I believe we are all continually doing so, and I hate the word aging, I am striving to continually to perfect or modify myself for good health and longevity. What do I do? One of the things I do is go to the gym 6-7 days a week, of what is soon to be a year long test of myself after a nearly 2 year hiatus. Some would call that obsessive, I call it healthy, and love watching as my body changes. (more…)

Sexy This Week: A Mischievous Smile

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After the eyes the next facial element to validate the look of a playful flirt is the mouth. A mouth that displays the upturned corner, or corners of a set of full lips beginning to flush with the heat of blood coursing through pulsing veins and arteries just below the surface of the skin. Lips that transform into many poses of communication, communication all a part of a directed smile, a flirt, creating what’s sexy this week, a mischievous smile.

Let’s be honest with each of all of us, we love the validation, the acceptance, the acknowledgement, whatever it takes! A smile goes a long way, especially when you know it’s sincere. It doesn’t mean you have to follow through, and if you do, so be it! Flirting makes each and of everyone of us on this planet feel good. (more…)

Sexy This Week; A Bulging Crotch

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Sexual objectification of the human male is fun and sexy, and let’s remind ourselves, men have been doing it to women for quite some time. Size does matter, and the men know it. They present it, seek out methods to enhance it, and relish in the fact that folks are looking. A bulging crotch presented in full glory is what’s sexy this week.

Bulging crotches that press up against the trappings of the coverings that conceal them are admired by all that are brave enough to admit to staring at them. Sitting at crotch height gives the perfect vantage point for getting a full on good look. Fantasies of size, shape, colour, girth, over take us all in our dirty little imaginings.

Cut or uncut, pierced, tattooed, decorated to the owner’s specifications. Is it a semi that makes it bulge, is it naturally that size soft, is it a cock ring, or padded? Yes padded, better yet packing! Delightful dreaming of what lies beneath concealed. Dreams of unleashing the beast from within, the beast of the male presentation of masculinity worn up and out there, just like memories of the playtex bra that lifted, supported, and jon-hammseparated. Women know the power of the breast, and the men are finally getting it with the power of the bulge.

Does it hang to the right, softly to the right, or straight down the middle? Pointed, full and meaty, skinny and long? Wild and woolly, trimmed and neat, shorn close cropped, or shaved soft and smooth? Balls that are tight close, free without to much swing, or seriously low hanging?staring from sunglasses

Tighty whiteys, thongs, briefs, boxer briefs, long line athletics? Underwear with a built in cock ring, a pouch to support the goods up and forward, away from the thighs, sliver thread inserts to draw away moisture for those athletically inclined.

The smell, the touch, the look, the taste, the sound. Do it! Blatantly stare, make it obvious, and the men uncomfortable, or not.

Now isn’t that fun? To objectify a man, a man’s crotch?

Sexy This Week: Fitness Through Discipline

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Good mental and physical health is essential to our well being, we all know that, we’re all taught that from an early age. Having the “where with all” to maintain it, that’s a different story, a life long journey, and to some, a challenge that requires a serious amount of will power. Getting up each and every day to do your exercise isn’t always motivation that comes naturally, not a lot in this world these days is natural and you have “yours truly” to attest to that. What it requires is some serious discipline, serious self discipline, and fitness through discipline is what’s sexy this week.

Each day I go to the gym for my workouts I am greeted by the hard working, committed trainers that go out each and every day to provide their knowledge and care to those that need it. Sharing their expertise and commitment to good mental, and physical health. Let’s get one thing clear, they are human to, and you can bet your bottom dollar they go through the same things any other person involved in the world of fitness does, the challenges to keep up the pace. Not everyone bounds out of bed with a smile or endless energy, not everyone has a clear healthy mind, not everyone is ready for the day. It takes discipline to push yourself through and beyond,  to do so everyday, and only you have the control to do so, no one else.

Recently I did a 24 hour road trip, 12 hours there, 12 hours back, being cooped up in a car non-stop each way. I keep telling myself it is relaxing, calming, I can read my books, magazines, listen to music, have a nap, watch the scenery go by and hope for a glimpse of the wild life that’s here in beautiful British Columbia, but for fuck’s sake, IT’S EXHAUSTING! Who am I trying to kid, I barely napped, didn’t read at all, found the music irritating, and yes, truly did enjoy the black bears, and elk along the way, but the rest, you can have it!velvetsteele-curves

I did venture to the gym at my destination, and that was seriously refreshing, however on my return I started to get back into my routine but on my second day back, slept through an early morning TRX class. Me the “uber” Domina couldn’t even get my own lazy, undisciplined ass out of bed! WTF!!?? I only had myself to blame, no one else, I felt crappy, lazy, and seriously apologetic that I left a hole in my trainer’s class, cause my butt was to snuggled in!

In the words of NIKE, just do it! Get out there and feel good, breathe deeply the beautiful air, work that body, get the blood pumping, and put a smile on that face!