If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to feel that after a while you have become stuck in a rut in the bedroom. This is common and easily fixed. There are many things that you can try to add a bit of spark back into your relationship and make things a little more exciting. Whether it’s trying new things together, like couples tantric massage in London, or experimenting with new toys or positions. Trying new things can have a positive impact on your life and your relationship. Here are a few benefits of experimenting in the bedroom.
Get in touch with your sexuality
Trying new things is a great way to find out what you really like in the bedroom. If you’re not sure how to explore, talk to your partner and come up with new ideas or do some research. Is there’s something you’d like to try, now is the time! If you’re not trying new things, you won’t know what you truly want and desire in the bedroom. Experimenting helps you to determine your likes and dislikes, so you can improve your sex life for the better.
Happiness
Experimenting with your wants and needs means that you can achieve great sex every time, and because of this, your mood will improve. The more you experiment and the more fun in the bedroom you have, the more feel-good hormones are released, and you’ll be able to feel the benefits. When you know what your desires are in the bedroom, this can lead to feeling fulfilled and content with the overall experience, and releasing some happy hormones is a plus!
Sex toys nowadays are becoming more refined and modern with something to suit everyone’s needs. Whether you’re into using restraints for bondage to spice up your sex life or looking for a specific vibrator to ignite your passion during solo stimulation, there is a toy for you. With such a wide range of sex toys available for all different kinds of pleasure and sensation, it can be hard to know where to start when choosing the best one for you. Here are some of the best sex toys for 2022 so far.
Massager glove
The massager glove is a great way of connecting with your partner in the bedroom. Massages help to up the heat during your alone time and can elevate the experience to a new level. It is easy and comfortable to use, and it is one of the less-daunting toys you might find. The glove is covered in metallic balls but still flexible, making sure you can reach all those hard-to-get areas. Why not try under the legs, arms neck, or anywhere else the mood might take you? The glove can be used solo but for best results, use it on a partner for full-body, all-over pleasure.
Graphite anal plug
Anal plugs are great when used as an introduction to anal sex, so why not opt for a dainty product that will not only feel comfortable inside but has a pretty, glittering gem to the base? You’ll be free to make any movements with this small toy and can be sure that it will fit tightly, but not cause you any pain. You can use it during foreplay or intercourse to engage all your erogenous zones. The graphite gives this toy a gorgeous, sleek shine and is made of skin-friendly material. If you’re looking for something pleasurable and stylish, this anal plug is the one for you.
Fat burners and metabolism my intrinsic link was something I discovered rather by accident. Again I’ve made it no secret that I’m no spring chicken. The struggle to accept that youth truly is wasted on the young. Learning to welcome the fact we all age, is a constant struggle I’d rather live without.
What I was able to accomplish in my younger times, seemed so easy, but as the years pass by, it’s a constant, now conscious struggle. My body slowing down, my mind and energy tiring, and the ever present struggle with weight management. My physical fitness routine, once accomplished with an element of ease to gain the results I so wanted, and got, is now a small battle of the bulge.
Muscles get softer and harder to maintain, and my time spent at the gym, is just that little bit longer. Ho hum, it’s all of our realities, not just me. A slowing metabolism, that makes you listless, and gain that weight, even with all that careful dietary control and lifestyle changes.
Collagen, the long forgotten protein essential for our wellbeing!
In 2015, I took it upon myself to do something a little different. Thought a little crazy by many, but to compete in a figure competition. It wasn’t so much a no brainer for me, but more the careful encouragement of my small group of close friends who believe in me.
I was already well into my physical fitness lifestyle of high cardio and weight lifting, but to be on a stage I needed to step up my game. If I was to get anywhere near what those career competitors were doing, buckling down, was something I had to get serious about.
So…..I decided to take the plunge after I got over my initial anxiety. Yes, my apprehension wasn’t just about looking good and being able to pass, but if I was truly capable of upping my game at the gym.
For those of you that know my history, I’m careful to take great care of my appearance, and how I present myself to the world. I’m tall, and at 6’1” (however when I measured at the contest sign in, I was 5’11 3/4”, clearly I’d shrunk) consider myself to be fortunate in the gene department, making for what I call, an amazon. Better yet, a “glamazon”.
Not only did I have to lose some weight to fit within the designated classes, I also had to increase my muscle tone. Something most folks outside the world of body building just don’t understand. Almost all believe you need too seriously bulk to gain that muscle. Well I can honestly tell you, that’s not the case.
I got to it!
I upped my cardio, varying the activity within my 30 minute routine from the stationary bike, to the elliptical machine, rowing, and whatever else activity I could fluctuate between. If I wasn’t drenched in sweat, I just hadn’t reached my peak performance. When I couldn’t fit in a cardio session, which I did with every training, I opted to interval train. I upped the intensity during my training so I perspired as though I had used the cardio machines.
Before and After
One key element to my workout I changed, was switching to body weight training. I did this to maximize my muscle tone development, and accelerate my weight loss. It worked like a charm. Trx straps, stretch bands, glide pads, cables, barbells, dumbbells, kettlebells, floor work, any activity that forced me to engage my core muscles. NO SEATED MACHINES!
What I hadn’t anticipated, was the dull ache in my joints that started to occur. First my big toes, then ankles, knees, lower spine, shoulder caps and finally fingers. It was this strange progression through my body that started in my feet. A wearisome throb that took some time to dissipate after I had left the gym.
This just wasn’t going to work, especially if I was to traipse across a stage in 4” lucite heels, clad only in a bikini and a fake tan.
Research, so I got to work doing my homework on what I could do to alleviate this nuisance soreness. Thinking of my joints, the source of my burn, I came across Collagen. You know, Collagen?
The most abundant protein in the human body, found in the bones, muscles, skin, and tendons. The substance that holds the body together. Forming the framework to provide strength and structure. Wikipedia spells it all out for you!
It occurred to me, that this could quite possibly be the source of my aches and pains. The lack thereof, not from my diet alone, but from the natural aging process of the body. Yes I’m no spring chicken, but as my father says; “I want to live a healthy active life until my shoes are permanently parked by the front door”!
He’s right, a mantra to live by.
With the help of my gang at Body Energy Club, I started supplementing with Collagen in my morning shakes, cereal and or coffee. Learning and sampling what the different kinds do, or can do. Getting the right one for me. Upping my doses to twice a day, once in the morning, and at night, usually before bed. Slowly but surely, over the span of a 3-4 weeks that nagging soreness gradually began to fade.
My training got better, more intense, I got stronger, lost the weight, and gained the muscle tone I so desperately needed. Not only for the competition, but my everyday life. I feel more active and capable, quite possibly I could say refreshed.
It’s a supplement I plan to keep in my routine, you should too. It works!
Beauty with the AnteAGE Home Micro Needling system is a treatment you can do in the comfort of your own home.
I got my system from the wonderful and knowledgeable women here in Canada, at Timeless Beauty Aesthetics. A 4-6 week program, that contains the roller, and 5 mini roll-on vials to use after each treatment. Time for each application is about 5-10 minutes, depending on your own threshold.
If you’ve never heard of micro needling before, from the folks at AnteAGE, is commonly known as Collagen Induction Therapy (CIT), microneedling. An advanced skin technique that uses shallow needles of varying depth (.25mm-3mm) to stimulate the layers of the skin. From the top layer to the deeper dermis, of which needles of a .5mm or longer are generally used in professional applications. The treatments create a release of natural growth factors (utilizing your skin’s native regenerative proteins), to naturally stimulate and encourage rebuilding your own collagen and elastin. Thus creating a more youthful appearance.There’s more to read on their site, but the gist of it is that regular Home Microneedling has been shown to improve the appearance of:
Fine Lines & wrinkles
Sagging Skin
Texture & Tone
Pore Size & Discolouration
fine line reduction
skin tone
skin tone
A more aggressive approach with Professional Microneedling helps reduce;
Scar Tissue
Target deep lines and wrinkles
Improve skin volume
Best for damaged skin
This particular system is recommended to be used in conjunction with a professional treatment. The idea? To keep the healing and rejuvenation taking place during the “downtown” between the more aggressive pro-treatments.
AnteAGE Home Microneedling System
Does it hurt? The most common question asked, you betcha! However with what I’ve put this body through, I can handle it! Truthfully, it’s not at all that bad. It’s done a few times week by a simple roll-over the skin’s surface 4-5 times in both directions during each session; up and down, side to side, or diagonally, your choice. The idea is to let the roller move over the skin on its own with gentle pressure. I on the other hand, am more aggressive, and I know for a fact, I apply more pressure than the average person. No pain no gain!
However, don’t go thinking a professional treatment is the same. Those treatments truly do require a good numbing, and will leave your face a bloody mess! Trust me on that one.
Does it work? Well when they boast ingredients like Human Bone Marrow Stem Cell Conditioned Media, you damn well better believe it better work. Actually the truth is in the pudding, I can see the differences. Smoother skin, reduced pore sizes, better skin tone a serious reduction in fine lines. The best, comments are from friends and family, even strangers; what have you done different? You look refreshed! Have you had work done? LOL!
Done morning or night, the choice is yours. I can tell you that done in the morning, your skin is left a little sensitive, even after the application of the solution from the mini roll-on applicator.
Even a cool breeze activates your skin’s surface and or the sun. It’s some what like your skin is “breathing”. Your skin can be red, and feel possibly like a mild sun burn.
I do suggest a night time treatment before bed, freshly washed, use the needle roller, roll on the solution, and head to bed after it has all absorbed. The dark helps it heal faster, while the sun, as we know, activates your skin. You’ll wake up not feeling a thing and can apply your make-up without a problem.
I highly recommend you check it out, and if you have any more questions, ask me. You’ll see visible results. Better yet, head over to the lovely ladies at Timeless Beauty Aesthetics, they’d be happy to answer your questions, and or, provide you with your own kit.
Sex, health, beauty and lifestyle. I’m all about them, call me shameless, see if I care? Unbeknownst to me they’ve been my mantra for quite some time, I’ve just never consciously put words to it. Why even in my own “dazed confusions” I’ve branded myself around those four ideologies. Jokingly I’ve proclaimed of myself as having said many times “I was never deep”, but humour aside, and for those that know me, I’m deeper than the oceans blue. So……. let me tell you what I’m up to, and I’ll break it down under each of those four principles .
SEX
the lovely Lip Love 8 Mode Suction
In all my years of service provision as a pro domina I’ve had the pleasure, and displeasure, of handling a lot of sex toys. Let me tell you, there is a lot of crap out there. I just don’t know who these folks are that come up with some of that stuff. If it’s just to make money, they’ve certainly succeeded in duping the unsuspecting consumer. Hopefully I’ll be able to shed some light on that with the reviews I plan to continue on.
However it’s not just about sex toys, lubes, lotions and potions, with sex, there is so much more. Sexuality, sexual identity, preference, activities, growth and healing, all kinds of aspects, and my opinions and musings to share. I think you get my drift.
Lip Love, a little hidden gem tucked away in a discrete little black box, another delightful surprise from the folks at Bestvibe.com
The Lip Love, from what the box says, is made in Berlin, Germany and meets all the European standards for physical, environmental and recycling requirements. Something I truly love and advocate for because again, some manufacturers in the sex toy industry, just don’t seem to give a damn what we put on or in our bodies.
In this day and age, the advancement of these delicious works of art, have truly taken on a very life form catering to the diverse needs of every consumer. The Lip Love is no exception. Nestled inside the box in it’s foam holder is the vibrant pink beauty that resembles a seed pod from some exotic plant with what looks like an eye irrigation cup atop a silver collar on the on the opposite end.
It’s sleek and sexy and cradles very comfortably in either hand with two control buttons that are easy to use, and decipher, facing towards the user or away from. One button for on/off and pause, the other to toggle through the 8 vibration and……….sucking modes. Yes that’s right sucking!
This little baby is designed with vibration and suction in mind for those needing a little more stimulation than the average run of the mill vibration. Ok, so the vibration comes from the motor providing the suction. It’s all in the suction that the action takes place! Three straight up suction settings, low, medium, high, and a further five variable suction settings.
It’s strong and intense, trust me I’ve tested it at great length, and absolutely love it. I will say that the strengths of suction may be a little too intense for the overly sensitive and suggest new users proceed with caution. However it won’t take long for the new, to become seasoned users, and I can assure you of that!
Aside from the obvious suggestion in the name of the device, the Lip Love is not just for use on the nether regions of women, but has exciting applications for use on the nipples as well. Let’s not stop there, it’s wonderful for all genders. This little pink devil is also fabulous on all regions below the belt. I won’t go into detail here, because that’s another story all together, but I’m sure if your creative you can figure it out. 🙂
Resilience and the will to survive, that’s what’s sexy this week!
Covid-19 has gripped the world in a state of panic riddled with anxiety and fear. Many are overwhelmed with thoughts of desperation and despair with no way out. Many are lost in thoughts of what to do, how to do it, and is it the right thing to do?
I’m no stranger, and very guilty of all of the afore mentioned trying to formulate my own way out. I’m equally lost, but still find myself antsy to move on, and find my direction. A direction to be honest I don’t know what is.
I think a lot, and get lost in those thoughts of doom and gloom, with no way out. I’ve read and listened to a lot of close friends caught up in the relative conspiracy theories. Friends I believe got, and are getting lost in many of the contradictory stories of who did what, why, and how, with that proverbial no way out. However none of these theories I’ve read allude to or even hint at a rational a solution. And why? They are conspiracies, theories that make you truly think, and for me, not get lost in them.
My attempts to shake up my friends from these thoughts, friends who are glamoured, I feel are lost. I ask them “but, what are you doing?” “how are you dealing with this?”. Questions that I believe are meant to focus on the positive. Yet, the response is always confusion and radical, confused solutions.
What to do?
I always find myself stepping back and taking a deep breath, a drink when permitting and direct my thoughts to those of something creative.
It’s never easy, and I know that, but here in this hot bed of talent I call home, Vancouver, so many of my friends have figured it out. The resilience and will to survive, even if that means thinking outside of their box to adapt and survive.
We aren’t all creative in the traditional sense, yes I know that, but creativity comes in many forms. It’s all how you interpret! Creative in art, life, love, happiness, business, finance, health and wellness, sex, sexuality, basically lifestyle.
REVIEW of the AixiASIA 7 vibration modes double cock ring prostate vibrator.
I love doing reviews of adult toys, and I’ve done many! When I was offered the chance from bestvibe.com to look over their product line and choose an item to test and review, I jumped at the chance.
Not knowing what to expect, I looked the classy, clean website over and settled on the extremely reasonably priced item titled, “7 Vibration Modes Double Cock Ring Prostate Vibrator”. Personally I truly don’t think men get enough attention when it comes to toys for them, so I thought that would be the right choice for my partner and I to give a try.
At $30.99USD I didn’t think I would be greedy and go with the higher priced ticket items for my “first time”. This suited my modest needs, and after all was said and done, a discreetly packaged item arrived within the week. Rather fast I thought.
age·ism
/ˈājˌizəm/
noun
prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.
Let’s be honest, there is no better to way to describe ageism but as plain ugly, and for many engaged in sex work, they too are no strangers to the ageist attitudes of those ugly enough to inflict it.
Sex work is complex delicate work that nurtures the souls of those that seek out the services of providers gracious enough to that provide what they need. A delicate nurturing of mind, body, and soul, so it’s no wonder that those who become attached to their provider, stick with them for a very long time. Over the course of that relationship factors that usually dictate otherwise are obvious, retirement, an address change to a new city or location, and in many circumstances, even death. Just to name a few.
Sex work is an industry that has nurtured a youthful appearance towards sex and sexuality, in favour of overlooking the fact, the population ages. That sex is only for and had by the physically young, which begs the question; what of the young at heart, mind, and soul? Bonds between a client and provider are forged in steel and for those that are willing to go that extra mile, these bonds can be everlasting.
