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Tidbits: Gender Confused?

Confused?

Most people are and don’t know what is right or wrong when it comes to gendering a person, and to be honest, most don’t and won’t unless helped with a little gentle education on the subject. Especially when asking a question on the subject that comes from a place of genuine compassionate ignorance, not “red-neck curiosity. As a person who considers herself a good ambassador on the subject, I will step up to the plate and educate those wanting to know, and I won’t be offended for them asking. You have to ask yourself; how would they know if you didn’t educate them, they’re not mind readers are they?

Although I agree with a lot of it, some of it I don’t, I do label myself, a label as woman who just so happens to be transsexual. Yes I’ve gone through a “little” corrective procedure to be that woman, but let me reiterate, I am woman first and foremost!

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Wacky Wednesday: Geometric Porn (You Be The Judge)

Geometric Porn T-shirt

Common geometry surrounds us everywhere we look in the form and shapes of squares, rectangles, circles, octagons, and the “triangle”. These shapes are the basis structures for a lot of common design, not only from the obvious of buildings and cars, but to faces, body types, hair styles, clothes, plants, and the list, is endless. All you have to do is look a little more closely and you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Having art education, I can tell that when I comes to figure drawing, you are trained to begin drawing the body using squares, rectangles, circles, and triangles, and build the body drawing from those most basic shapes. It was, and is a great tool for helping when the beginner, or the most advanced artist finds themselves at roadblock when creating the next latest and greatest masterpiece. (more…)

Sexy This Week: The Beauty of Ages

Carmen Dell'orefice

As time ticks on, so do we and in the words of a David Bowie song

“Pretty soon now you’re gonna get older
Time may change me
But I can’t trace time”

Poetic words to live by and let’s be honest we are all fighting it to some degree, and if not gracefully, then pretty damn ugly. I am no “negative nelly” when it comes to having the services of a cosmetic surgeon attend to my upkeep, hell no! I am all for it, but there are definitely times when going overboard looks as though you’ve been out to sea for months on end, stranded by yourself in a dingy with nothing else but you and your urine. In other words a hot mess!!

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Tidbits: Take Life By The Balls

Take Life By the Balls

Up for a few words of encouragement?

I am, we all know that life has it’s up’s and down’s and we do whatever it is to cope on a daily basis. For me it boils down to a few things, confidence and courage, courage to take what life has to offer, and the confidence to enjoy what it has to offer.

Cause ain’t life grand?

It surely is, and I question why more folks aren’t enjoying what it has to offer, stopping to smell the roses, seize the day, take the reigns, shit and get off the pot, or quite simply TAKE LIFE BY THE BALLS! Yes that’s it, TAKE LIFE BY THE BALLS and have a great time of it.

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Wacky Wednesday; Japanese Sex Dolls Are Now So Life-like They’re Being Mistaken For The Real Thing

dutch wives sex dolls

I have my fair share of dolls, and stuffed toys, but I am a sucker for the real thing, real bodies of the human kind. I completely understand the therapeutic benefits of these dolls and totally support that and make no judgements. Technology is becoming so advanced, so intricate, and seriously sexy! Have a look of at these dolls and I think you’ll agree. For me I think these are just a step in the evolution of  real live acting and possibly thinking beings. Just my thoughts and hopefully you’ll have your own.

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Sexy This Week: Sexy Underwear

sexy women's panties

We all wear them from a young age unless of course you had those free thinking, free wheeling parents that didn’t care and had you running around commando as a kid. Underwear, yes they have evolved over the centuries, and to the happy place I love being alive in, the 21st century! Worn for practical reasons, and we know what those reasons are, they are personal to each and every one of us.

However when reaching adolescence and having had a gander or two, or three at the latest and greatest fashion magazines of our sexy men's underweartimes, something gets turned on in most of us hot blooded animals, a little something called lust and desire. A lust and desire for the body that wears those sexy underthings, or to possibly be that body in those sexy underthings, sexy underwear, that’s what sexy this week.

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Tidbits; An Actual Answer to ‘Why Is She Dating a Masculine Woman Instead of Just Dating a Guy?’

Asian-Business-Woman

I get asked questions similar to this statement, in nature, A LOT!

Some are pleasant, some ignorant, and many downright, for lack of a better term, FUCKING STUPID! Questions like, what do you see in her or him? They’re fat. They’re short! He’s ugly!  She’s ugly What’s up with that? Is that a guy or a girl? How can you like “that”?

The list of questions and statements goes on and on at dizzying rates of speed that I just can’t keep up, nor do I want to! In my quest to finish off a TIDBIT I am working on, I came across this amazing article that answers the elements of what I am talking about here quite well. The only difference is that it hits home about stereotypes of masculinity, sex, and gender, and I am in a good position to share in all of what is written in the article, possibly because of my unique set of circumstances.

As most of you know, I LOVE it all, I LOVE people! I love masculine men, I love feminine men, I love masculine women, and I love feminine women, and definitely everyone in between pushing those boundaries. My social circle is large and varied and I wouldn’t have it any other way, and those of you that have checked out all my social pages and the photos I post, you’ll see that I completely live what I say here.

I know I present a certain image, but it is my own presentation that for many, is stereotyped as to what I supposed to be attracted to based on that image, an image not superficial to me, but superficial to some others. Yet it’s those who have that stereotype and belief of me, that I should be in what their narrow minds tend to believe!

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Wacky Wednesday; Dildos Sold

WW Dildos sold

According to WIRED, “the dildo still towers over the competition when it comes to sales. At erotic shop Adam & Eve, which sells 2 million–plus sex toys a year, 14 of the top 25 are penis-shaped (more or less).”

That having been said, items that are somewhat far removed from the ergonomic/organic shapes we as humans prefer, should be somewhat of an indicator to all those out on the shop. Just because it looks funky, and the salesperson is good at their job for pulling the wool over your eyes, doesn’t mean it is right for you! My suggestion is to follow your gut feeling or go with what your original intention was when you set out to make that purchase if you’re unsure.

Speaking from experience, there is a lot of complete CRAP out there and a good portion of manufacturers think they can design, create, and sell to unsuspecting consumers, because to be honest, THEY THINK WE’RE ALL STUPID!

Be aware, and beware, when it comes to buying your next orifice filling item it may not be for you and most places won’t take it back once you’ve used it.

PERFORMANCE; FUSE Revolution Counter Revolution

FUSE Revolution Counter Revolution Sedan Chair

Yet another video surfaces of a performance I had the pleasure of taking part in at the Vancouver Art Gallery for FUSE, their quarterly interactive instalment where they blow open the doors to the membership for everyone, with curator Paul Wong, of Paulwongprojects. Enjoy!

Sexy This Week; Variety

Dove Body Shapes and Variety

Yes it’s true, women’s bodies come in all shapes and sizes since the beginning of man. As such we have all had our fair share of likes and dislikes as result of what we are attracted to when it comes to that aspect of human attraction attached to sexuality. Thankfully we are not created equal and all have something different to bring to the table, cause if we were all the same it would make for a very boring meal. You’ve heard the saying “variety is the spice of life”? Well I hope you have because variety in body shapes is what’s sexy this week. (more…)