We all have it, and we all present it, whether you like it or not, are conscious of it, or are in full on denial and trying very hard to suppress it. It comes naturally, and for those in control of it and enjoying it to their full advantage, it’s hot, empowering, and a turn on, sexuality and that’s what sexy this week.

As a woman who is transsexual, I am bombarded daily from, for lack of a better term, “nut-jobs” who are telling me that my presentation of my sexuality married with my sexual self, is a little overt and to tone it down a few notches. Well I have a few choice words for you folks;

FUCK YOU!

I love my sexuality, I own it, but it didn’t come overnight, nor was it easy.

OPT, short for Options for Sexual Health puts it like this;

“In its broadest sense “sexuality” describes the whole way a person goes about expressing himself or herself as a sexual being. It describes how important sexual expression is in a person’s life, how one chooses to express that sexuality, and any preference one may have towards the type of sexual partner they choose. The way we choose to behave sexually is as individual and complicated as the ways we choose to dress or earn a living. Human sexuality rarely falls into neat categories or lends itself to simple labelling, but rather is a rich and complex area of human experience.”

I grew into it as anyone does, and it all began when I began to “transition” the term used in the trans community to define the changeover from one sex to the other, or your true sex. I call it puberty, because it is, and just like adolescence it’s confusing, and challenging as we fumble through it. Coming out on the other side for me was journey of self discovery of myself and how I like to present. Sure I may hyper sexualize myself, but I made that choice all on my own, no one did it for me or had a gun pointed to my head telling me to do so.

I’ve heard all the nonsense about the negative presentation and association it gives to women, but I seem to be the only one getting that as a “trans” woman, not my cisgendered girlfriends who dress and present in just the same manner. Men are just the same. I love being a woman and presenting in all it’s glory. I feel powerful, in control, confident, and will go after whatever it is I want. That doesn’t just apply to me, but to all my female, male, trans, non-binary, and self-identified friends, everyone in my social circle of friends and acquaintances.

It’s complex, and hell it should be, far to complex for a short blurb here, and that’s because as humans, we are complex beings, changing and changing with the human landscape everyday as we move on into the future.

We all know individuals that hang on to old ideals for what I believe is a fear of things new and different from their own familiarity. The “nut-jobs” I spoke of saying “that just because you cut off your cock doesn’t make you a woman” are those that live in fear trying to control others and how they present. Yes it’s a vulgar statement they make , but so are they, they are vulgar to even think and say that, and I believe it is because they are ugly, ugly from the inside out. Their whole core is ugly and that makes them 100% ugly, and mean. That’s what I think!

I get turned on by confident presentations, and I don’t mean sexually, although that does help, but “turned on”! I am energized, uplifted, and happy, sexuality is at the core of our being, as humans. We should be able to express how we want, be who we are, but not at the expense of others, but for yourself, because you deserve it.

Present your sexuality the way you want to without anyone telling you different.

Go out and have fun, show it off, be in charge, turn me on!