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Transgender Day of Remembrance TDOR

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Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR), also known as the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, is observed annually on November 20 as a day to memorialize those who have been murdered as a result of transphobia and to draw attention to the continued violence endured by the transgender community. However, for many of us it means so much more and in different ways. Transgender Day of Remembrance, that’s what’s important this week.

You may be thinking to yourself this is usually the slot for Sexy This Week and what relevance it has. Well as a woman with my unique, medical history, it has a lot of relevance, so let me explain.

I’ve been through a lot of tough, rough, not so nice things in my life and yet, I’m still here to tell my tales. However there are those that the same cannot be said of. Innocent people who lost their lives just for being themselves, unique, brave, and beautiful people wanting to live healthy happy lives just like anyone else. I’m one of those people, and so are many others I know, that’s what the relevance is, and it doesn’t need anymore more explaining beyond that.

As human beings we seem to be always fighting for our freedoms and human rights, and the trans community is no exception. Being targeted for being different or misunderstood is no fun, trust me I know that only to well. However it most certainly hasn’t weakened my resolve to continue standing up for myself and the rights of others by using my voice to speak up for myself, and for those who can’t.Velvet-Steele-hot-rollers-coffee-cross

Within all of this imposed negativity I still try to find the beauty of life and humanity and make that tasty lemonade from the lemons life has thrown at me. What’s sweet about my lemonade is I’m able to remember the trail blazers that came before me and think about and appreciate the paths those brave stalwarts paved. Paths now trodden by the many that have come after them, and will continue to be traversed for a longtime to come.

For me, without the positive thoughts, it’s easy to get bogged down in the negative that life has to throw at you. To be trapped, or fearful to move on with your life as a happy healthy human being, and for me, that’s not an option, I can’t, and won’t let it.

Life is to be lived, loved and enjoyed, and I want, and need to remember those who lived it the same, those who were taken to soon from this plane of existence.

As it’s true what they say about “loving your fellow man”, embrace diversity, love what is different, life is already to short.

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Sexy This Week; Sexuality

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We all have it, and we all present it, whether you like it or not, are conscious of it, or are in full on denial and trying very hard to suppress it. It comes naturally, and for those in control of it and enjoying it to their full advantage, it’s hot, empowering, and a turn on, sexuality and that’s what sexy this week.

As a woman who is transsexual, I am bombarded daily from, for lack of a better term, “nut-jobs” who are telling me that my presentation of my sexuality married with my sexual self, is a little overt and to tone it down a few notches. Well I have a few choice words for you folks;

FUCK YOU! (more…)

Tidbits: Gender Confused?

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Most people are and don’t know what is right or wrong when it comes to gendering a person, and to be honest, most don’t and won’t unless helped with a little gentle education on the subject. Especially when asking a question on the subject that comes from a place of genuine compassionate ignorance, not “red-neck curiosity. As a person who considers herself a good ambassador on the subject, I will step up to the plate and educate those wanting to know, and I won’t be offended for them asking. You have to ask yourself; how would they know if you didn’t educate them, they’re not mind readers are they?

Although I agree with a lot of it, some of it I don’t, I do label myself, a label as woman who just so happens to be transsexual. Yes I’ve gone through a “little” corrective procedure to be that woman, but let me reiterate, I am woman first and foremost!

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Tidbits; Transgender Day Of Remembrance TDOR

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As much as I like to think I am, I’M NOT! I am not immune to the hate that fills those who feel it their right to lash out and hurt those of us on this planet that are different. Those who have chosen to become happy in our own skin. Those like me!

I sit here writing this as a woman who is post-op transsexual having gone through all the procedures necessary for me to become happy. I am a woman inside and out, a woman now comfortable in my own skin, looking and feeling great, loving life, the liberties I fought hard for, and sex, yes sex! I love it, and so do the partners that have, and had the pleasure to share it with me.

I guess you could say I made up for lost time, and well, still am.

I am also a woman that sits here writing this with the memories of the stabbings I have endured, the knife slashes, the beer bottle wounds from being bashed, scars where chunks of flesh have been torn out by teeth from my attackers, the broken bones long since healed that still ache, areas on my head where the hair doesn’t grow back, (more…)

TIDBITS: Debunking 6 Myths About People in the Sex Industry

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This article first appeared in Everyday Feminism and embellished with pictures to fit the this blog.

Debunking 6 Myths about People in the Sex Industry

November 5, 2014 by Laura Kacere and Sandra Kim

They navigate and move between the spaces of visibility and invisibility, criminal and citizen, safety and danger, exploitation and empowerment.

People engaged in the commercial sex industry are constantly navigating these margins.

Amidst stigma and invisibility, they suffer high rates of violence and discrimination, and yet are too often left out of the conversation around violence against women. (more…)

As seen in Georgia Straight; Vancouver transgender inclusion report excludes transsexuals, activists say

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Trans and gender-variant inclusion working group criticized for recommendations

Podcasts: Transister; Trans to Trans

Velvet Steele Transister

Trans-to-Trans

Originally Released; Sep 24, 2012

Velvet chats with fellow male to female transgendered personality Cadence Matthews, talks about her nose, discusses the eyes and how they have it, relates the story of the dentist from New Brunswick and offers a selection of transgender news stories.

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Podcasts: Transister; Naughty Cross Dressers

Velvet Steele Transister

Naughty Cross Dressers

Originally Released; Sep 15, 2012

Learning while watching Mom apply makeup, cosmetic tattooing, cross dressers and forced feminization, fake pussies (sheath vaginas) and masturbation using items from michaelsalem.com, iphone app that helps trans find gender neutral washrooms, a transgender Florida candidate and Oxford University rewrites its dress code.

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