Internet Communication and Networking


For me internet communication and networking is always “dicey” and for a multitude of reasons, particularly if you are a woman, and look a certain way. Like me, most people are always waiting and hoping for that one great deal or opportunity to come their way through the networking they do. Going to great lengths to keeping many profiles on sites most of us haven’t even heard of. Over the years I’ve learned to take it with a grain of salt, so I don’t expect much.

The multitude of carefully constructed and crafted sites that allow you to showcase your talents to prospective clients that are looking for your particular skill set. Along with your written details, these sites also provide you with the option to put your best foot forward for all to see; your profile picture.

This is the spot to shine and grab attention, to keep your photo and written details cohesive for a professional presentation that will have you being taken seriously. Enough so, that those who are making serious enquiries will take the time to read your info and truly absorb what your skills and credentials are all about.

As simple as this may sound for those of us that get it and understand what professional means, there are those that don’t and provide profile pics that just don’t quite meld. I’ll dispense with the specifics on this detail, but I am sure you can understand the confusion about reading a resume for a doctor while viewing a pic of a twerking ass in Mexico as the profile picture. No?

Let’s say you do have all the elements in place for a picture perfect presentation; a punchy picture, a stand out resume, and qualifications up the wha zoo, and finally, an enquiry. However it doesn’t take long to realize that clearly someone hasn’t read anything from your profile and resume, instead asking; How are you?  What do you do? Where are you from? How’s your day? Can I ask you a question? Then my favourite, hey baby!

First of all, I’m not your baby, second I’m here for networking opportunities, not social dating or other. Thirdly, ARE YOU AN IDIOT? I don’t candy coat any more and I’m usually pretty clear in what I put out there, where, and what I am offering or looking for. An adult lifetime of professional domination has taught me that skill. For those that don’t know, I’m specific, clear and concise and very direct.

It amazes me what folks think or will try, and looking solely at my picture without reading the written portion doesn’t win brownie points with me. It actually pisses me off, and beyond that, it’s a serious waste of my time answering questions that could have been answered reading my info.tibbits-inernet-communication-networking-nude-websurfing

To alleviate any further time wasted I created a generic reply that usually weeds out the nonsense enquiries that come to me trough my profiles. It has come to be very useful template for me. It’s blunt, direct, and means business and in this day and age, I for one can never be to sure, nor stand to have precious time wasted!

You may ask yourself, why would I bother to respond, but when you get as many dumb assed enquiries as I do, the need to want to reply comes up, not the want. At times I am cheeky in my replies, at other times I’m clearly flustered and upset and respond accordingly, and yes, based on my mood.

As an example, I’m going to share a modification too my template I sent to a query that came to me through my LinkedIn profile.

Hi there, thanks for the taking the time to enquire with me.

What specifically are you looking for here??

I hope you read my profile in it’s entirety, and if not suggest you do.

To begin, I am not here for sex, sex with you, or any other person, and yes I’ve had the “surgery”.

If you wish to consult with me about business opportunities, great, if not, and you wish to ask me questions of a personal nature, then go to my website for all those details further.

If consulting with me about me about my personal life is what you want to do, again I have my website for that, if it is specific details you wish to know, I charge $300 an hour for consulting, payable at 50% in advance to secure appropriate times and dates to consult.

Consulting, which does not include sitting topless, or nude on camera, nor does it involve any sex acts.

If you wish to proceed in a professional manner great, lets arrange that, if not, look to my website for those details about my life and where to follow me further on social media.

If you already haven’t looked on my profile, here on LinkedIn to see those location details, I can be found at;

As I said before, I customize each and every query that requires my special brand of loving reply.

Inspire The Desire To Create

Be A Part Of Positive Change

Enticingly Yours

Velvet steele

Wacky Wednesday: ERIC STANTON Blast From The Past


I LOVE art, and I am sure that’s no big surprise to most of you out there, who know me well, and those who don’t. I am very influenced but the provocation, the beauty, the colours, and the strength each artist is trying to convey.

One of my favourite blasts from the past is none other than Eric Stanton, Sept. 30/1926—March 17/1999 considered one oferic-stanton-baroness America’s best bondage and fetish illustrators, cartoonist, and comic-book artist, with the majority of his work depicting female dominance scenarios.


Sexy This Week: Discipline

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Not all of us have it self ingrained, not all of us have what it takes to have someone do it for us or command us the ability to have it, or get it, and I’m not talking about the kind and ultimately with the same underlying context. What I am talking about is discipline, and that’s what’s sexy this week.

Wikipedia, my favourite resource defines it as;
the suppression of base desires, and is usually understood to be synonymous with restraint and self-control. Self-discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation. Discipline is when one uses reason to determine the best course of action regardless of one’s desires, which may be the opposite of fun. Virtuous behaviour can be described as when one’s values are aligned with one’s aims: to do what one knows is best and to do it gladly. Continent behaviour, on the other hand, is when one does what one knows is best, but must do it by opposing one’s motivations. (more…)

ICING SUGAR: A Party About Sex Toys



An Evening of Sweet Treats and Sugary Delights

With the anticipated return of your hostess


DJ Kasha Kennedy

presented by

Eldorado Boutique and Pink Soda Productions


A celebration of all things sugary, sweet, tart and unique.

An erotic feast for the senses laid out for your pleasure:
Fill your darkest desires or simply satisfy your sweet tooth. From feathers to leather, sugar to Steele – there’s something for every palette…

Complete with a few naughty presentations on Lubes, Lotions, and Potions, and some of your favourite Sextoys

Take a nibble if you dare!


Play the night away with all the beautiful boys and girls at Vancouver’s ONLY licensed sex positive, sex on premises club.




Sweet treats available for purchase from your premiere adult candy shop – ELDORADO BOUTIQUE, where we bring it to you!

With our friendly, knowledgeable and experienced staff on hand to answer all your questions

Entry $20

Wacky Wednesday: Alien Egg Laying Sex Dildo

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Yes for many of us we have a fixation on aliens and all things other worldly from outer space. We have art, movies, stories fact or fiction, themes, and industrial design out the yin-yang, so it goes without saying that it was just a matter of time that the fixation on things sexual with aliens would rear it’s colourful head.

Depictions in art, in all forms and mediums, furniture, costume, and hot hot erotica. Well now you have it in the form of an egg laying dildo. I am not sure where this lovely one comes from but I have a funny feeling it comes from my favourite freaky assed designers at Bad Dragon, where you’ll find just about anything that tickles your fancy, both inside and out, up and down, and round about. (more…)

Wacky Wednesday: 7 Completely Insane Sex Toy Designs

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Like the rest of the world things just keep on getting more and more bizarre in the world of sextoys. I am not sure if it is boredom or just truly the thrill seekers wanting newer and “better” items to stick in their orifices, or put their dicks into. I do see a lot of wacky things, and well, have done a lot of wacky things. I am not here to judge, if I did, I wouldn’t be doing some of the things I do in my life, such as advocacy and activism.

However the folks at have come up with a humorous article detailing a few items up for grabs through some of the site I myself shop at.

Have a look, and you be the judges, I’ve even linked the photos to the home site for my dirty fun pictures of these lovelies! You just may find yourself stumped, and as I like to say when lecturing,

Listen, learn, and maybe laugh a little. I do!


Tidbits: Coitus Automobilus

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The sex appeal of the automobile has been known for a long time, especially by men. Automobiles designed by men, built for men, driven mostly by men, men. Women weren’t really in the equation except when the car was referred to as a “family car”, the vehicle of choice for growing families, which we know is and was serious advertising bullshit. It wasn’t until the Ford Motor Company finally clued in with the introduction of their pony car, the Mustang, introduced in 1964 as a car for women and heavily marketed with slick and sexy advertising campaigns. A car that boasted simplicity, yet stylish, subtly powerful, and adored by 1964 mustangmany, women that is in the start.

Car appeal has always had people of all sexes in it’s grip. From the moment we first sit in a car we are groomed for the day of privilege we somehow believe we are entitled to, the day we get our driver’s license. That day when we can hop behind the wheel of an automobile and drive our family, friends, selves, and lovers to destinations of our choosing.


Tidbits: VOTING IS SEXY (and horny)!!!

With Canadians headed to the polls this year, maybe we could stimulate them into believing it can be this good and get the currnt nut job out of office! The Spanish seem to have it right as you’ll see in this lovely video!

Podcast: Intravenus-ManUp & Taboo 2015 (Sex Week 2015 SFU)

SFU’s student society is presenting a 3 day “Sex Week” event, focusing on the question of Taboo Talk: Does society’s sexual philosophy play a role in biomedical Harm Reduction. IntraVenus talks via phone to Sex Week guests and official sexperts Velvet Steele and Dr Teesha Morgan about YOU KNOW WHAT. |

And Paige aka PonyBoy, and Sam aka Justin Case, join us to talk about being Drag Kings at Vancouver’s Man:UP, and how portraying men has led to new levels in their feminism and self love.

Tidbits: Sex, Drugs, and……

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I can’t stress enough how I am definitely no angel, never have been, and probably never will be, but as I move on in life I seriously find myself loving drug free sex. As I mentioned in Sexy This Week # 34. It has so many perks, and I for one can’t tell you enough of how I feel I about that. Ok I do love a good glass of wine, or two in the lead up to a good romp, but the prolonged sloppiness that comes from illicit substances that have gone well beyond their due date leaves me with the feeling it is something to be desired, and I am not desiring that.

I like to enjoy the time with quality over quantity, so I am able to have more throughout the day or go again and again without the fight to have the ultimate orgasm that just ends in frustration. Not to mention the angst a partner, or two may be going through long after your done and trying to sleep or come down.

Frustration that can be coercive, sad, humiliating, annoying, or end up in a seriously bad situation. Let’s remind ourselves that feelings change when you are on another plain, and change they can, and very rapidly.


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