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Tidbits: Sex, Drugs, and……

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I can’t stress enough how I am definitely no angel, never have been, and probably never will be, but as I move on in life I seriously find myself loving drug free sex. As I mentioned in Sexy This Week # 34. It has so many perks, and I for one can’t tell you enough of how I feel I about that. Ok I do love a good glass of wine, or two in the lead up to a good romp, but the prolonged sloppiness that comes from illicit substances that have gone well beyond their due date leaves me with the feeling it is something to be desired, and I am not desiring that.

I like to enjoy the time with quality over quantity, so I am able to have more throughout the day or go again and again without the fight to have the ultimate orgasm that just ends in frustration. Not to mention the angst a partner, or two may be going through long after your done and trying to sleep or come down.

Frustration that can be coercive, sad, humiliating, annoying, or end up in a seriously bad situation. Let’s remind ourselves that feelings change when you are on another plain, and change they can, and very rapidly.

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Tidbits: Old Age Sex and Sexuality

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It’s always ASTOUNDED me how the general populace for the most part think that sex and sexuality stops at a certain age or time in a person’s life, whether it be from meno/manopause, illness, age, death, etc. I could go on here, but I think you get the point. The truth is, it doesn’t, and doesn’t have to either if your libido is waning. Society seems to place that unnecessary belief or as I believe “burden,” on those who are still sexual or displaying their sexuality as though it was a bad thing to be shunned and abhorred by all.

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Tidbits; 5 Things You Don’t Know About Strippers (Until You Are One)

This is so true, and I can tell you that having had many friends over the years that have been or are exotic dancers most can and will seriously relate to this. Now for those of you who are not a part of this world and may have some bizarre pre-conceived notions, you may want to have a read and learn a few things.

Originally posted in Cracked By Robert Evans, Amanda Mannen, Meredith, Emily, Salvatore, Layne, Laura, Zooey, Helen  (January 25, 2015)

 

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If prostitution is the world’s oldest profession, stripping may very well be the second oldest (more…)

Wacky Wednesday; Brothel Menu From 1912

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How civilized were they? The folks in jolly old England were truly having their jollies off and in good, filthy, fun fashion!

The language has changed since then, but for most of my readers I am sure you’ll be able to figure out what it all means, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out what “squatting on prick means!” For all you history enthusiasts this little piece of literature comes from the London brothel of Mrs. F. A. Tasse and yes proves the point that the word FUCK, was well in use long before the 20th century. Ever heard of the proclamation “fornication under command of the king” (FUCK)? Whether you believe it or not, it makes for a great read! (more…)

Tidbits; What Sort of Porn Would Brits Miss The Most

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In another asinine show of control over it’s citizens,  the British government is once again telling them, who they consider STUPID, what they can and cannot watch when it comes to pornography and the type of depictions they can indulge. Let’s remind ourselves of the key word here, depictions, meaning NOT REAL, fake, and if it is a real spanking, as we all know a lot of folks truly do like that sort of activity, including myself.  What pisses me off about all this is the self righteous religious, moralistic right thinking they continually know what’s best for everyone else. When in actual fact they don’t even know what’s good for themselves!! (more…)

TIDBITS: Debunking 6 Myths About People in the Sex Industry

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This article first appeared in Everyday Feminism and embellished with pictures to fit the this blog.

Debunking 6 Myths about People in the Sex Industry

November 5, 2014 by Laura Kacere and Sandra Kim

They navigate and move between the spaces of visibility and invisibility, criminal and citizen, safety and danger, exploitation and empowerment.

People engaged in the commercial sex industry are constantly navigating these margins.

Amidst stigma and invisibility, they suffer high rates of violence and discrimination, and yet are too often left out of the conversation around violence against women. (more…)

As Seen In; Georgia Straight, New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

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New prostitution law leaves sex workers “invisible and anonymous”, advocate says

by CARLITO PABLO on NOV 6, 2014 at 3:32 PM
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Jessica, a sex worker, spoke out at a press conference critical of the passage of Bill C-36.
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Lets Not Import Canada’s Sex Work Bill

Lets Not Import Canada’s Sex Work Bill

Canada’s new proposals criminalize johns, while decriminalizing those engaged in prostitution.

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  • Pace Society/TwitterThough it has received little coverage in American media, Canada has spent the past 10 months in an intense debate about its prostitution laws. Last December, the nation’s Supreme Court struck down basically all anti-prostitution laws on the grounds that they violated Canada’s Constitutional Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The elimination of prostitution laws will go into effect this December, and the Conservative Canadian government has been rushing to get a replacement in place that will satisfy the Supreme Court. (more…)

Tidbits; Think Of The Children

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Conversations around sex and sex work have always been a challenge, but especially so, when children are around. Folks seem so conflicted when it comes to any form of education, advocacy, images, representations or even depictions, implied or not. Now me as the eternal devil’s advocate I am always asking why, what’s this conflict, where does it come from? The reasons are endless, fortunately for me, I’m in social circles that have a very healthy outlook on sex, sex of any kind, or anything in general to do with it. We talk about, look at it, have it, express it, and of course educate the young around us. No we’re not having it front of them, or producing images, writings, or other as they’ll find it on their own, the curious always do, but those I know, definitely don’t shy away from it.

So, let’s think of children! Does that mean we should keep them forever sheltered about what is going in the world? The world of our physiological needs, biological needs? Needs for the most part that are beyond our control. (more…)

Sex Work In New Zealand

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September 17: FIRST Keynote Forum. Sex Work in New Zealand: “Eleven Years of Decriminalisation: the Sky is Still Blue.”

For immediate release September 10, 2014

September 17: FIRST Keynote Forum Sex Work in New Zealand:

“Eleven Years of Decriminalisation: the Sky is Still Blue.”

VANCOUVER: Following right on the heels of the Special Senate Committee hearings into Bill C-36 this week in Ottawa (the anti-prostitution bill), advocacy groups for sex workers will host a keynote forum on September 17 in Vancouver, with a special keynote speaker from New Zealand: Catherine Healy of the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective.

Ms. Healy will describe how New Zealand has been successfully fostering a safer working environment for sex workers for 11 years, without increases in trafficking, underage workers, or overall number of sex workers. The country was the first to decriminalize sex work in 2003 with its historic passage of the Prostitution Reform Act.

“In Canada, the Conservative government’s proposed prostitution law, Bill C-36 is strongly opposed by sex worker groups and active sex workers, because they know it will replicate the same kinds of harms as under the previous laws struck down by the Supreme Court last December,” said Joyce Arthur, founding member of FIRST Decriminalize Sex Work (a national feminist sex worker advocacy organization based in Vancouver that lobbies for the decriminalization of prostitution in Canada).

“The experience of New Zealand that Catherine will speak about should send a strong message to Ottawa that there is a proven, better way to protect both communities and sex workers from harm,” said Arthur. “Bill C-36 criminalizes consensual adult sex on moral and ideological grounds, which only serves to put people at risk, isolate them from health and social services, and violate their constitutional rights.”

Media are cordially invited to attend.

Catherine Healy will also be available for media interviews during daytime hours on Tues Sept 16 and Wed Sept 17
(Please contact Katrina Caudle to arrange – see page 2 for Contacts.)

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Keynote Forum Details:

Date/Time: Wednesday, September 17, 2014, 7 to 9 pm
Location: Rickshaw Theatre, 254 East Hastings St., Vancouver
Moderator: Kerry Porth, PIVOT Legal Society (and Senate Committee witness against Bill C-36.

Opening Performance by The Unstoppable Conni Smudge.

Introduction by Joyce Arthur, FIRST Decriminalize Sex Work: “Government in our bedrooms: The parallels between prostitution laws and abortion laws.” (Joyce is a founding member of FIRST. She is also founder and Executive Director of the Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada, a national pro-choice group.)

Keynote Speaker: Catherine Healy, New Zealand Prostitutes Collective. Ms. Healy will be speaking on how New Zealand law recognises sex work as a legitimate form of work. Her talk is entitled: “Eleven Years of Decriminalisation: the Sky is Still Blue.”

Catherine Healy is a founding member and now the National Coordinator of the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective (http://www.nzpc.org.nz/). She is also a former member of the government appointed Prostitution Law Review Committee, and co- editor of “Taking The Crime out of Sex Work“. Catherine has played a key role in the design and implementation of the laws that decriminalised sex work in New Zealand in 2003, and is a former sex worker herself.

Q&A with the audience to follow Catherine Healy’s presentation.
The forum is sponsored by FIRST Decriminalize Sex Work, BC Civil Liberties Association, PACE

Society, and Spaces (A Sex Industry Study, UBC).
Contact: 604-349-4495
Katrina Caudle, Organizer, crownofviolets@gmail.com

604-351-0867 • Joyce Arthur, FIRST, joycearthur@shaw.ca

 

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