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Tidbits; The Price Of A Good Sextoy

The Price Of a Good Sextoy

So you find yourself staring at the waves of colour on the shelves at your local sex shop and your starting to feel, to say the least, OVERWHELMED!? Let’s be honest here you do! Not only do you have colour to choose from, there’s the shapes and sizes, the multitude of functions, and almost every action under the sun to think about.

It’s a daunting task making the right decision to buy that perfect “toy” for your adult play, but never the less an executive decision that must be made. Settling on something that is uniquely right for you doesn’t come easy and sometimes certainly not cheap. Prices generally start at $9.95, and for the top-of-the-line, $300 plus.

Generally the lower priced items come with minimal actions, speeds, functions, and movements, but with the (more…)

Tidbits: In Through the Out Door

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I am not sure if it is the energy that comes from PRIDE in the months leading up to and after, but a question I am increasingly asked and still am; how to make anal sex less painful for first time players. I am not just talking about gay guys, but straight guys and women. Not that PRIDE actually has anything to do with it as I like to think, but truthfully I think that people are just becoming increasingly open minded and inquisitive to other forms of pleasure they never considered before. I have to say I just love PRIDE and all the things it invokes in folks, so HEAR HEAR to PRIDE!!

Ok, so now these eager beavers have decided that this is the next step in their sexual evolution, the question that gets asked is how do you get past the door that slams shut when anything gets remotely close? Things as small as your pinky, or ring finger, before introducing the big guns. How do you do it, how do you relax enough to get anything in there? (more…)

Tidbits; Beginnings

Beginnings

People always ask how I got into the world of fetish and erotic dressing, in particular domination. I can’t really answer exactly how I got here but I guess you could say that I was born with it. In my DNA, my genes, my fetish interests all there, I just needed to be tapped into it, I guess. The high end fashions, lingerie, leather, latex, high heels, stockings garters pantyhose. The crack of the whip, tightening of a buckle, locking a latch, melting some wax, smell and shine of the rubber, leather, PVC. The make-up, hair, the LOOK that commanded attention and garnered some serious respect. It was inevitable

I’m also not sure if it was while in Denmark at the age of 22 at a dinner I was invited to; a dinner with a slave suspended over the dining table that got me interested. Or maybe it was the lovely gentleman who invited me over who “saw something in me” all classy, stylish, and slick that had something to do with opening the tap for the waters of fetish to flow freely. (more…)

Tidbits; I Do What I Want

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Let me start by saying I didn’t get to where I am today by flipping burgers at McDonalds, but I did apply once and thank god a friend of mine who answered the phone when they called, told them politely to “get lost”. I learned early on that getting and holding a job was going to be somewhat of a challenge and there were several reasons for that, not reasons of my own. If I wasn’t getting fired for not sleeping with the boss, I was getting canned for the delusions of alcoholic, drug addicted managers and by the insecure who were seriously intimidated by me – a threat to their position. Many times I was turned away at the door after they put a face to the resume, or for lame assed excuses that I didn’t fit the corporate image, for example at a telephone dating hookup company. WTF!? I learned I was always going to affect those folks that were beyond my control or positive influence, mostly based on ignorance. Basically for being me! I learned that as a person who was and is different from the status quo I had to think outside the box. (more…)

Tidbits: Plastic Plastic Plastic

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Did you know that plastic first originated in 1600 BC? Ok well maybe not the plastic we know and have become so accustomed to today, but it was the Mesoamericans that first used rubber for balls, bands, and figurines. Jump forward a few hundred years and we were treating milk proteins with lye creating a hardened substance not unlike horns on a bull. In the 1800‘s Charles Goodyear, yes of Goodyear tires discovered the technique of vulcanization solidifying items derived from natural rubber setting the wheels in motion for the development of what we now know today as plastic. (more…)

Tidbits; Park Sex

Park StatuePeriodically I go for long walks with a coffee or tea to people watch and take in the beauty this fair city I live in has to offer. I mean who wouldn’t, Vancouver is AMAZING! Anyway after awhile I found myself sitting on the bench in the park watching the water and the people walk by, and I began to think about what all these people of all ages, all walks of life, do in their sex lives. Are they kinky, vanilla, missionary, like it where the sun don’t shine, threesomes, group action, do they still have sex? Wander, as my mind is want to do, it suddenly popped into my head the answer to a random question that was asked by one of the boys at the cocktail lounge I frequent.

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Tidbits; Opinion: Focus on ‘high-risk lifestyle’ shifts blame from violent perpetrators to their victims

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Here is an opinion article courtesy of the folks at Living in Community by Tricia barnes; a non-profit I am working with here in Vancouver on issues of sex work. This article details the recent murder of two sex workers found murdered in New Westminster and the continued stigmas that the media and other organizations continually place on one of the oldest professions. Good job ladies!

“In separate incidents on Aug. 12 and Aug. 25, two women were found dead in their apartments in the same New Westminster building. Both women were believed to have worked as escorts

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Tidbits; The Intersex!

xxy1After watching a lovely video by one of my fave bands, Goldfrapp, Annabel. I was brought to tears, watching and listening to the lyrics so eloquently written by that dynamic duo. It struck so many chords and given what is in the news these days regarding the issue, I wanted to express that on some of the sites I “was” on.

I say “was on” since I am no longer as I came up against cowards not wishing to address anything to do with it and shut me down. Yes I get your “terms of service” but when they seriously conflict with your “mission” statement well WTF! No room for discussion, hear me out, change a few policies? I think that most western

 

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Tidbits; Sextoys or Therapeutical Aids?

lilsisjul11-3How did these lovely devices we have come to cherish so much come to be called “sextoys”? To be honest I am not to sure since I can’t seem to find the information, but I am sure it has some funky origins within the latin language.

To start Wikipedia defines it as such;

A sex toy is an object or device that is primarily used to facilitate human sexual pleasure, such as a dildo or vibrator. Many popular sex toys are designed to resemble human genitals and may be vibrating or non-vibrating. (more…)

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