Sex/Sexuality

Tidbits: In Through the Out Door, Anal Play

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In through the out door, anal play for everyone!

I am not sure if it is the energy that comes from PRIDE in the months leading up to and after, but a question I am increasingly asked and still am; how to make anal sex less painful for first time players. I am not just talking about gay guys, but straight guys and women. Not that PRIDE actually has anything to do with it as I like to think, but truthfully I think that people are just becoming increasingly open minded and inquisitive to other forms of pleasure they never considered before. I have to say I just love PRIDE and all the things it invokes in folks, so HEAR HEAR to PRIDE!!

Ok, so now these eager beavers have decided that this is the next step in their sexual evolution, the question that gets asked is how do you get past the door that slams shut when anything gets remotely close? Things as small as your pinky, or ring finger, before introducing the big guns. How do you do it, how do you relax enough to get anything in there? (more…)

Tidbits; Beginnings

Beginnings

People always ask how I got into the world of fetish and erotic dressing, in particular domination. I can’t really answer exactly how I got here but I guess you could say that I was born with it. In my DNA, my genes, my fetish interests all there, I just needed to be tapped into it, I guess. The high end fashions, lingerie, leather, latex, high heels, stockings garters pantyhose. The crack of the whip, tightening of a buckle, locking a latch, melting some wax, smell and shine of the rubber, leather, PVC. The make-up, hair, the LOOK that commanded attention and garnered some serious respect. It was inevitable

I’m also not sure if it was while in Denmark at the age of 22 at a dinner I was invited to; a dinner with a slave suspended over the dining table that got me interested. Or maybe it was the lovely gentleman who invited me over who “saw something in me” all classy, stylish, and slick that had something to do with opening the tap for the waters of fetish to flow freely. (more…)

Tidbits; I Do What I Want

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Let me start by saying I didn’t get to where I am today by flipping burgers at McDonalds, but I did apply once and thank god a friend of mine who answered the phone when they called, told them politely to “get lost”. I learned early on that getting and holding a job was going to be somewhat of a challenge and there were several reasons for that, not reasons of my own. If I wasn’t getting fired for not sleeping with the boss, I was getting canned for the delusions of alcoholic, drug addicted managers and by the insecure who were seriously intimidated by me – a threat to their position. Many times I was turned away at the door after they put a face to the resume, or for lame assed excuses that I didn’t fit the corporate image, for example at a telephone dating hookup company. WTF!? I learned I was always going to affect those folks that were beyond my control or positive influence, mostly based on ignorance. Basically for being me! I learned that as a person who was and is different from the status quo I had to think outside the box. (more…)

Reviews; ZoloCups

ZoloCupsZoloCups the latest in masturbation aids for men from Zolocup. These sleekly designed items come in 7 different brightly coloured packages, boasting 7 different interiors for whatever mood strikes your fancy. Beginning with the “Original” you then have the “Fire”, “Backdoor”, “Personal Trainer”, “Glide”, “The Girlfriend” and the ever popular “Deep Throat”. They’ve even included cute little illustrations to match the name of each one. To use, just tear along the dotted lines, remove the cap on one end,  peel off the sticker on the other to regulate the suction for your desired level of tightness, and insert as deep as you can go. Just like rival Tenga, these are a short lifespan item, but with tender loving care they can be used again and again, billed with “realistic feel, intense sensations, ultimate pleasure, life like canal, great for travel.” Ingredients already supplied in each is a mix of purified water, glycerin, propylene glycol, and hyaluronic (more…)

Tidbits: Plastic Plastic Plastic

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Did you know that plastic first originated in 1600 BC? Ok well maybe not the plastic we know and have become so accustomed to today, but it was the Mesoamericans that first used rubber for balls, bands, and figurines. Jump forward a few hundred years and we were treating milk proteins with lye creating a hardened substance not unlike horns on a bull. In the 1800‘s Charles Goodyear, yes of Goodyear tires discovered the technique of vulcanization solidifying items derived from natural rubber setting the wheels in motion for the development of what we now know today as plastic. (more…)

Reviews; Fetish Fantasy Silk Rope

Fetish Fantasy Red Silk RopeSilk Rope from Fetish Fantasy! Now who wouldn’t want to be tied with a luxurious feeling twine that feels incredible against your skin and privates? I know I do! Japanese Shibari rope bondage is not new, but is definitely fast becoming widely well known throughout the world. Beginners alike are starting to experience the thrill of being tied, tormented, and pleasured by their lovers on a multi-cultural and faceted scale. The smooth, soft feel of the rope, for many is the jumping off point for most “newbies” before getting into the slightly rougher feeling that the jute and hemp varieties offer that seasoned players relish. Engage in light bondage or more intricate designs and knotting techniques that the devious mind can conjure up. Available in red, purple, pink and black, you’ll receive 10.5 meters (35ft, 1/4″ thick) rope in each beautifully packaged box. Enough for an intricate body harness and the multiple designs beyond, you’ll start an exciting adventure in the original practice of the  restraining activity centuries old.

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Reviews; Ai (formerly the Mimi) Dildo

Ai  (formerly Mimi) Made of 100% medical grade silicone, the Ai is a hand sculpted design for intense stimulation and comfort. The velvety smooth finish slides and glides when in contact with a water based lubricant or your own natural juices. This hypo-allergenic baby is safe for your body and harness compatible for use by your partner. Once in motion the smooth ridges brush your sweet spots as it slides in and out. It comes with a 30 day warranty with proof of purchase with the manufacturer and 3 lovely colours to entice you further, pink, blue, lavender.

Reviews; Night Light Glow In the Dark Condoms

Night Light Glow in the Dark CondomsYes you read it right, a condom that glows in the dark. Night Light is two layers of latex that seal in the non-toxic phosphorous pigment of the 3rd layer for those that just can’t find it in the dark. Keep in mind although fun, it is latex and for those with allergies this little martian is not for you. I am up for a little night time venture aren’t you?

Reviews; Koloss Vacuum Erection System

Koloss Erection EnhancerThe Koloss Vacuum Erection System is designed to create and maintain your erection. The company states “the intended use is to create erections in men with erectile dysfunction to restore ability and strengthen weak erections”. Made of ABS plastic that is pthalate free the kit comes with the pump, mounting cone, penile cylinder, 4 compression bands, and a comprehensive set of instructions. Instructions that are easy to follow and a device that is easy to use. Simply insert the mounting cone to the end of the tube, slide the compression rings over and onto the tube, remove the mounting cone and slide over your penis. It is recommended to use a petroleum like jelly or something of that thickness applied to the end of the tube to get a complete seal before you begin pumping. Take your time as going tom fast can create to much suction to start and if you are a beginner you may not like this. Keep in mind this an air suction device much different from the

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Reviews; Penis Head Enlarger

Penis Head Enlarger The Penis Head Enlarger is just that!  A penis head enlarger for your growing member from the folks at Pipedream. Advertised as “getting incredible sucking sensations where you want them most while watching your cock grow bigger and thicker than ever before!” Actually it’s just the head of your penis, but hey why not, bigger is better! Apply the PVC sleeve around the head that actually clings to it all by itself. As you grow, it makes an even better seal allowing it to truly do what it’s supposed to do; provide a super strong vacuum effect for maximum results. Simply squeeze the pump ball to create suction and watch it gently deliver a subtle sucking action to engorge that head bigger and bigger. The idea is to prolong erections and ejaculation with the included enhancement ring you slide over the shaft till it is nice and snug to prolong the inevitable and the fun. When done just detach the hose from the cylinder, wash in mild soap and water or with the

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