Soft Silky Bed-Sheets for Sexy This week


Soft silky bed sheets draped across a bed, and wrapped around a mattress. Fabrics that come in a multitude of colours and patterns, fibers and thread counts. Sheets to enmesh a nude body for a bit of cooling on a sensuous summer’s eve or warmth for a cold winter’s night. Alone or accompanied, sheets that comfort and soothe a weary body, a tired mind, or a napping babe. Bed sheets that cocoon and protect for watching a good movie or curl up in with a good book. Soft silky bed sheets, that’s what’s sexy this week.

Coming from a Danish family, in our household we were brought up with feather duvets to lay on and get covered over with, down filled pillows, and high percale sheets. I didn’t know those details at the time because I was kid, and quite frankly, to busy to care, because that’s what kids do, eat, sleep, and play, and I was no exception.

When the time came for me to buy my first set of sheets, I went cheap, and what a mistake that was. They pilled, they balled, they were rough and scratchy, tore super easy, and in the Toronto mid-summer heat, they were hot as hell. Never again was I to make that mistake.

I love a good night’s sleep or a much needed nap to refresh and recharge my batteries and what better accompaniments then soft silky sheets?

I usually sleep in the nude, but from time to time in my one of my vintage lingerie sets, and I love the feel of good fabrics against my bare skin, or satin covered butt. It’s cozy, comforting, and soothing, and Like everyone else, I have many more reasons for loving them.

Now I’m not suggesting that a person spend outrageous amounts of money to get good sheets, they can be stupidly expensive. There’s no need to break your bank account, but buy cheap, and you’ll most likely regret it. I choose to find a happy mid range, one that I can afford, from bed linens that meet my needs, and last for some time without the need to replace them.


I won’t go on painting a picture as it truly is worth a thousand words, but truly there’s nothing like quality bedding. The soft silky feel, the sensuality, the comfort, a good night’s rest. Go out and indulge, you’ll thank yourself for it.

But don’t take my words for it.   

Transgender Day of Remembrance TDOR


Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR), also known as the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, is observed annually on November 20 as a day to memorialize those who have been murdered as a result of transphobia and to draw attention to the continued violence endured by the transgender community. However, for many of us it means so much more and in different ways. Transgender Day of Remembrance, that’s what’s important this week.

You may be thinking to yourself this is usually the slot for Sexy This Week and what relevance it has. Well as a woman with my unique, medical history, it has a lot of relevance, so let me explain.

I’ve been through a lot of tough, rough, not so nice things in my life and yet, I’m still here to tell my tales. However there are those that the same cannot be said of. Innocent people who lost their lives just for being themselves, unique, brave, and beautiful people wanting to live healthy happy lives just like anyone else. I’m one of those people, and so are many others I know, that’s what the relevance is, and it doesn’t need anymore more explaining beyond that.

As human beings we seem to be always fighting for our freedoms and human rights, and the trans community is no exception. Being targeted for being different or misunderstood is no fun, trust me I know that only to well. However it most certainly hasn’t weakened my resolve to continue standing up for myself and the rights of others by using my voice to speak up for myself, and for those who can’t.Velvet-Steele-hot-rollers-coffee-cross

Within all of this imposed negativity I still try to find the beauty of life and humanity and make that tasty lemonade from the lemons life has thrown at me. What’s sweet about my lemonade is I’m able to remember the trail blazers that came before me and think about and appreciate the paths those brave stalwarts paved. Paths now trodden by the many that have come after them, and will continue to be traversed for a longtime to come.

For me, without the positive thoughts, it’s easy to get bogged down in the negative that life has to throw at you. To be trapped, or fearful to move on with your life as a happy healthy human being, and for me, that’s not an option, I can’t, and won’t let it.

Life is to be lived, loved and enjoyed, and I want, and need to remember those who lived it the same, those who were taken to soon from this plane of existence.

As it’s true what they say about “loving your fellow man”, embrace diversity, love what is different, life is already to short.



Photographer Rick Legal


Photographer Rick Legal is man talented behind the lens! I’ve worked with a lot of photographers, some good, some not so good, and some great! I’ve decided I’m going to start in


troducing you to them, and for me there is no time like the present to show you some of my greats. From the “Wild and Wondrous” side of Wacky Wednesday, I give  you, Rick Legal.


I’ve stood in front of his camera many times, and I’ve always been pleasantly surprised by what he sees through the lens of his camera, and what he is able to capture. Described as “shy” and “bold” by Yukiko Onley in an article from 2011in the Vancouver Observer , I can honestly say he is both, and more!

He may start off as shy when getting to know him, however it soon becomes clear he knows what he wants and is eager to get it! He is truly one of the few photographers that chooses to capture shots in black and white, producing edgy, sexy, and compelling images that can also border on dark.  His choice of models are strong and raw, not afraid to bare it all, in striking poses that command the viewers attention.


His landscapes capture timeless and seriously picturesque visions that seem to go on forever, and with the combination of a model, well lets just say the image is brought to a new level of intrigue, and harmonious bend between the model and the setting. WW 49 Photographer Rick Legal_tumblr_oz2kcohLeR1qaz9xpo1_1280

A recent study he produced, involved playing around with the soft colourization of his shots evoking the sensuality of a Playboy presentation from the magazine’s early years. There is most definitely a certain sensuality in what he captures that is absolutely not submissive. The models are in control, and his keen eye is able to capture that control through the lens of his camera.


Agreed, some of his work is unexpected, and he has a lot to see, so obviusly I can’t share it all here, and I think you get my point. Truthfully what would you expect from a “shy” man originally from Winnipeg, Manitoba, that is truthfully not. As an artist, provocation is clearly what he has a firm grasp on and I’m happy to see him here in Vancouver, BC.





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FingerNails, Long and Luscious, with Holiday Colours Worth Getting from CND Review


My finger nails are something I always have! It’s just one element that goes into being me!

Long luscious fingernails that I feel finish and compliment my hands. Something I know a lot of other women feel the same way, just as they do about their hair. For me its all about the total ook from top to bottom.

Yes I’m high maintenance, but it’s maintenance I look after no one else. I choose it, so I work on it! Starting from my health from the inside out, eat right, trips to the gym, my hair, make-up, clothes and the finer things. 

Again my fingernails are no exception to that rule, and I’ve added them to my schedule of monthly maintenance! It’s a treat I give to myself and I’m very appreciative of that fact, to be able to treat myself to some of these finer things in life I covet. I work hard, and some would say I play hard. Meh! 

I’m also very appreciative when I get invited to attend new and or improved product release events, and I do my best to inform everyone what they are all about! The latest and greatest of such is the newest by #cnd for their #cndglacialillusion a line of glittery soft pastel colours with a new and improved formula for the release of their holiday colours and the exciting polish up-keep line for longer lasting wear if you don’t have gels or acrylics. These new items are offered in gel application and regular polish. I chose the gel application of “alpine plum”  to go along with acrylics. Applied at the @prepbeautyparlour an acrylic free salon, that has some lovely interiors to seriously relax in, mine was applied by the lovely @nailsbyhaya

This turned out be a great morning and love the glass finish! 



Happy  upcoming Holidaze everyone!!! 💋🖤🖤


Fairytales and Castles, That’s What’s Sexy This Week

Rosenborg Castle, Copenhagen, Capital Region of Denmark, Denmark

My family hails from a small but steeped in history country, Denmark, a country of fairytales and castles. Soft rolling hills, green pastures, 1000 year old cities. A country surrounded by bodies of water that cradle this now peaceful land like two gentle hands that meet at the tip top in a place called Skagen. The trip to Skagen is magical as you drive you through countrysides of soft rolling hills, and sand dunes that have a life of their own, that literally eat up the buildings of yesteryear. Creamy white sand reclaiming what man has made returning it to the elements from whence it came. Sexy This week-fairytales-castles-Skagens-sand-engulfed-churchA road trip we took many times through country dotted with architecture and structures from a time gone by. Structures of stone and metal, manors, and castles of grandeur, that for most people can only imagine seeing in their dreams. Dreams that bring to life stories, feelings, and thoughts of hope and the future, fairytales and castles, that’s what sexy this week.

As a child I was always taught to dream big, that I could do anything, that everything was within my grasp. As I grew older, that education somehow flipped, and the new lessons now became nightmares as I was told my dreams were unrealistic and I should focus on attainable goals. Goals not of my own, because my dreams couldn’t possibly amount to anything in the real world, they were just, and always would be, dreams.

sexy-this-week-fairytales-Rosenborg-Castle-Copenhagen-2I didn’t realize it then, but those trips to the country of my family’s origin and the obligatory trips to the castles and manors that dot the countryside of Denmark, would shape my desires to continue to dream, and dream big! In all honesty, I hated these trips, the ritual of my mother getting us ready to go, the journey to get there and then the self guided tours. The architecture bored me, the room decor was old and smelled, and the art, well just big and rather strange. Grande paintings of people I cared not about, still life’s that made no sense, and landscapes so huge the painted expanses scared me, but yet there it was…….

All this observation, unbeknownst to me, was working its way into my subconscious and embedding itself forever. The opulence, the grandeur, the realization that for me, fairytales can come true. To dream big and live it, whatever and however big that fairytale may be, to not let your dreams be defined as unrealistic by others, to be continually and forever

We know inspiration comes in many forms, and for me the castles and manors of yesteryear were a good place to start. To be in awe; the detailed artwork, explicit colours, opulent room decor, and extravagant architecture all woven into the tapestry of my imagination. To believe that dreams and fairytales can and do come true, to see if for real, smell it, touch it and taste it. To see what the minds of the big dreamers accomplished and created, and know that I could and can achieve that to, if I want to.


Maybe my mother had an ulterior motive on these ventures to inspire her children to dream big, a motive I realized long ago I am now more than grateful for, but maybe she didn’t. Maybe it was her way to inspire herself because the rest of the rest of the year she was looking after four brats in a mundane existence. Of course I know that’s not true, that was my childhood mind speaking. The truth of the matter is we kids were being inspired to dream big, to be continually and forever inspired, my mother was just planting the seeds. I just needed watering, and the garden


Thanks mom!!!

I believe in fairytales, fantasy, and dreams coming true, and as children one thing is clear, we all read, or have had read to us fairytales, and as adults that seems to fade away. What am I suggesting? Pick up a book, read a story, or run through the halls of a fairytale castle and be inspired. Whatever your fairytale, fantasy, whatever it is that inspires you to let your gardens grow, just do it! Trust me, you’ll be happy you did!



Internet Communication and Networking


For me internet communication and networking is always “dicey” and for a multitude of reasons, particularly if you are a woman, and look a certain way. Like me, most people are always waiting and hoping for that one great deal or opportunity to come their way through the networking they do. Going to great lengths to keeping many profiles on sites most of us haven’t even heard of. Over the years I’ve learned to take it with a grain of salt, so I don’t expect much.

The multitude of carefully constructed and crafted sites that allow you to showcase your talents to prospective clients that are looking for your particular skill set. Along with your written details, these sites also provide you with the option to put your best foot forward for all to see; your profile picture.

This is the spot to shine and grab attention, to keep your photo and written details cohesive for a professional presentation that will have you being taken seriously. Enough so, that those who are making serious enquiries will take the time to read your info and truly absorb what your skills and credentials are all about.

As simple as this may sound for those of us that get it and understand what professional means, there are those that don’t and provide profile pics that just don’t quite meld. I’ll dispense with the specifics on this detail, but I am sure you can understand the confusion about reading a resume for a doctor while viewing a pic of a twerking ass in Mexico as the profile picture. No?

Let’s say you do have all the elements in place for a picture perfect presentation; a punchy picture, a stand out resume, and qualifications up the wha zoo, and finally, an enquiry. However it doesn’t take long to realize that clearly someone hasn’t read anything from your profile and resume, instead asking; How are you?  What do you do? Where are you from? How’s your day? Can I ask you a question? Then my favourite, hey baby!

First of all, I’m not your baby, second I’m here for networking opportunities, not social dating or other. Thirdly, ARE YOU AN IDIOT? I don’t candy coat any more and I’m usually pretty clear in what I put out there, where, and what I am offering or looking for. An adult lifetime of professional domination has taught me that skill. For those that don’t know, I’m specific, clear and concise and very direct.

It amazes me what folks think or will try, and looking solely at my picture without reading the written portion doesn’t win brownie points with me. It actually pisses me off, and beyond that, it’s a serious waste of my time answering questions that could have been answered reading my info.tibbits-inernet-communication-networking-nude-websurfing

To alleviate any further time wasted I created a generic reply that usually weeds out the nonsense enquiries that come to me trough my profiles. It has come to be very useful template for me. It’s blunt, direct, and means business and in this day and age, I for one can never be to sure, nor stand to have precious time wasted!

You may ask yourself, why would I bother to respond, but when you get as many dumb assed enquiries as I do, the need to want to reply comes up, not the want. At times I am cheeky in my replies, at other times I’m clearly flustered and upset and respond accordingly, and yes, based on my mood.

As an example, I’m going to share a modification too my template I sent to a query that came to me through my LinkedIn profile.

Hi there, thanks for the taking the time to enquire with me.

What specifically are you looking for here??

I hope you read my profile in it’s entirety, and if not suggest you do.

To begin, I am not here for sex, sex with you, or any other person, and yes I’ve had the “surgery”.

If you wish to consult with me about business opportunities, great, if not, and you wish to ask me questions of a personal nature, then go to my website for all those details further.

If consulting with me about me about my personal life is what you want to do, again I have my website for that, if it is specific details you wish to know, I charge $300 an hour for consulting, payable at 50% in advance to secure appropriate times and dates to consult.

Consulting, which does not include sitting topless, or nude on camera, nor does it involve any sex acts.

If you wish to proceed in a professional manner great, lets arrange that, if not, look to my website for those details about my life and where to follow me further on social media.

If you already haven’t looked on my profile, here on LinkedIn to see those location details, I can be found at;

As I said before, I customize each and every query that requires my special brand of loving reply.

Inspire The Desire To Create

Be A Part Of Positive Change

Enticingly Yours

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Fleshlight’s Freak Series and Zombie Dildo’s Just in Time For Hallowe’en and Beyond


Since Halloween is just around the corner, my favourite time of the year, I thought it would be the ideal post to celebrate All Hallow’s Eve in sexy wacky style. Let me remind you that Wacky Wednesday was created to showcase all things wacky in the world of sex toys, and we know there is a lot. However Wacky Wednesday has also grown to include the “wild and wondrous” of the internet, showcasing creations I find in my travels in cyber land, in case you were wondering.


As a sex toy reviewer, why not? After all it is halloween and people don’t stop fucking just cause they are handing out candy do they? I only hope they are not doing both at the same time!


A few years back the creators at Fleshlight came up with the idea of making “Zombie Dildos”. I loved the idea, hell they even had a series, but it seems for some unknown reason the deadly delight no longer exists as a product. I did however find a great review, in vivid detail of the rotting stiff you’ll be sure to enjoy over at  Kinky Kitten. Hopefully if enough readers write and ask, one can hope that Fleshlght will resurrect the undead dick, and find it back on store shelves soon!wacky-wednesday-Fleshlight-Freaks-dildos

However, Fleshlight is not one to disappoint, they also have in their product list, the super cool Freaks collection of masturbators for the deviant at heart. Made of their high-quality mineral oil and rubber polymers, protected by a series of U.S. patents the Freaks boast 5 ghoulish colours. As a side note, the Fleshlight material also does not contain phthalates. Phthalates  are mainly used as plasticizers—substances added to plastics to increase their flexibility, durability, and longevity.

The names say it all; Alien, Cyborg, Drac, Frankenstein, Predator, Reapor, and my faves, Zombie Lady and Zombie Mouth. Just pic your passion, or poison pussy, and get to work tricking and treating with your choice of interior.


If your worried about discretion, the company offers privacy protection, discrete billing, and discrete shipping right to your front door! Of course this is only the tip of the iceberg as to what else Fleshlight offers. You only have to browse the site to see all the goodies.

They also give the 5 top reasons to buy a Flashlight reprinted here for your consideration.

1)You’re in control.

Whenever you want, however you like, the Fleshlight sexual gratification alternative is there to fulfill your sexual fantasies and meet your desires.

2) Nothing is closer to the real thing.

Our soft, pliable, non-vibrating SuperSkin sleeve has been designed to provide the most realistic intercourse simulation known to man.

3) Improve stamina & performance.

Whether you’re a real Casanova or just a rookie to the game, there is always room for improvement. Test your skills, practice new techniques, and test how long you can last in one of our specially designed inserts, created for maximum sensation.

4) Practice safe sex.

The Fleshlight was created, in part, to address the risks associated with promiscuity, the spread of STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), and unwanted pregnancy. Whether you’re having trouble finding a safe partner or waiting for the right one to come along, the Fleshlight offers a safe and satisfying means for expressing your sexuality.

5) Lifetime of pleasure.

With proper use and care, the Fleshlight will last you a lifetime. If only it were that easy with real sexual partners.

I’m not so sure about these top 5’s but hey who am I to judge?

Happy Halloween

Happiness, That’s What’s Sexy This Week


In my youth, my Mom would take the whole family downtown to the CNE each and every summer. The Canadian National Exhibition had all kind of fair ground paraphernalia from stuffed toys, to plastic jewelry, and trinkets of all kind. My favourite piece of memorabilia I got each year, was a yellow plastic smily face medallion. That two inch diameter face with the black line smile, and black dots for eyes was happiness to me, and happiness is what’s sexy this

Growing up for me wasn’t always the proverbial bed of roses, yes I had a great childhood considered privileged by many outsiders, however I never saw it that way.  Fights, schoolyard bullying, teasing, fending for myself, and so much uncertainty and soul searching. I couldn’t wait for the yearly journey to the CNE, to that summertime fantasyland and the opportunity to get my coveted yellow round plastic face with the black eyes and smile.

I wore it like a badge of honour, and I was happy. I don’t know what it was that made me feel that way, but with it I felt strong and powerful without a care in the world. When I lost that smily face, or it was taken from me, I was never sure of what the truth was, my world came crashing in.

The interim wait for the next summer’s fair kept me going, and then it came, the first year my coveted idol was nowhere to be found. I was heart broken, with my plastic stranger no longer available to soothe me. For a long time during that trip to the fair I searched high and low for my vacant faced friend to no avail. Towards the end of the day I began to entertain the idea of finding a new confidence idol, but with the end of the day nearing, I realized my chances were going to be slim.

sexy-this-week-happiness-Canadian_National_Exhibition_at_night_2008Honestly I knew I was going to be riding the train home without a consolation buddy and the thought of it had me panic stricken. I was deflated and anxious, and as the train pulled away from the station heading eastward with the throngs of people onboard, I slowly became entranced in the dimming lights of the fair through my glare out the window.

It was a piece of plastic, with black, a hole and a ribbon, that meant so much, but why. Answers that didn’t come right away, but slowly over time I came to realize what that piece of plastic embodied for me, and what it didn’t. That behind that smiling face was where the truths revealed themselves, truths I needed to investigate and accept.

Truths that included making decisions about my own happiness, to take control and make it happen. To step up and own it and know that behind every smiling face, plastic or not, there are just as many depths, complexities, and truths.   

This is sexy this week, and these posts are meant to be short, sweet, and inspirational so I won’t drone on. Your happiness is what you make it, take charge, live the life you want, live the life you

Happiness is within you, within your grasp.

Alexis G-String for the Wild and Wondrous Side of Wacky Wednesday


  Pasties (singular pasty or pastie) are patches that cover a person’s nipples and areolae which are affixed with adhesive. Though pasties are commonly associated with strippers, burlesque shows and erotic entertainment, they are also at times worn more casually as an undergarment and occasionally as beachwear

Let’s be honest, we all love them! Those little coverings that grace a beautiful breast, to entice, and captivate, while retaining a little “modesty’ for the wearer. Creations adorned with jewels artfully and intricately placed atop, lace, leather, or satin, the perfect accessory for any nipple.wacky-wednesday-alexis-g-string-crown-jewel


Introducing Alexis Silvertone Lingerie designer. Owner of Alexis G-string – burlesque & erotic lingerie of Vancouver, British Columbia. Originally an engineer from Bulgaria, her meticulous creations reflect the discipline she employed working in her home country before making her move to Canada with her family.

Inspired by the charismatic Japanese visual kei rock band The GazettE, to honour The GazettE she decided to have her Grand Opening on the exact day of their 11th anniversary. Attributing the designs in her first collection to their costumes, their quotes, even some of their actions; great personalities, talent and hard work that make it was easy for her to dream big with her one-of-a-kind designs.

Offering creations in various shapes and sizes, she’s chooses to work with the best quality supplies available. Designs are always tested with a prototype and she is always eager to take on custom orders. A variety of colours are offered along with a large selection of fabrics in satins, velvet’s and lace, to name a few.

Her signature looks involve the use of crystal and pearl appliqués meticulously applied to create the intricate designs she has crafted. Her work is sexy, classy and elegant, yet bold and playful. She offers designs that celebrate the many holidays and seasons of the year, in colours and designs to match.


Her creations are to be worn not only for an intimate evening at home, but out and about for a night on the town. To be worn under a blouse, discretely visible, or on full display, her designs when properly applied, stay firmly in place adding to the allure and intrigue. Her clientele is just as varied as is her designs, while her catalogue continues to grow.

If that’s not enough for you, why not look at her very playful g-strings, designs for all sexes, she is after all Alexis G-String.wacky-wednesday-alexis-g-string-tropical-paradisewacky-wednesday-alexis-g-string-pasties-collction





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Art In the Eyes of the Beholder, That’s What Sexy This Week



Beauty truly is in the eyes of the beholder, and art is subject to the same, the interpretations of each and every individual person. The personal tastes of one person are completely different from that of the next, what I like as art, you may not. I try to find beauty in all I see, if not the whole picture, then an element or two of it. I’m busy keeping myself stimulated, inspired, and motivated to keep the dreams alive. Appreciating the creations produced for my enjoyment, art in the eyes of the beholder, that’s what sexy this week.


sexy-this-week-art-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder-leonardo-davinci-mona-lisaSpeaking for myself, I have a very different way of approaching life that not many people ascribe to. I’m busy trying to find beauty wherever I go and in whatever I see. From the animate to the inanimate, and some art, just like some people, can be down right ugly! Yes I said it, people can be ugly as well, and I do my best not to dwell on that and move on when it’s clear there is no beauty to behold.

Art appreciation makes it easier to find that beauty, that stimulation, inspiration and motivation, to be emotionally moved from the enjoyment. To observe grande scale works and be captivated from a single element that draws the viewer into a world of fantasy. To invoke  memories from the past, or grow ideas for the future. To be blown away by awe-inspiring, images, paintings and

To not just see, but literally taste, touch, smell and hear the colours, as the vibrancy comes alive. Story telling through engaging imagery to play on and in the mind of the beholder, a distraction from the possibility of the daily mundane. To find if not one, but many elements of beauty and be forever stimulated, inspired, and motivated to keep the dreams



For even further context, have a look at this beautiful article over at Medium by Iris, to keep a person motivated and inspired to produce what they love.

Art for art’s sake for all to enjoy.


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